Billabong789 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Me and my girlfriend were together for about 3 years, then we broke up because I wasn't making enough time for her. Anyway we got back together a month or so after that, because I realized I had made a mistake, and she took me back. She was about 2 hours away at school. During Christmas break we got that spark back. We were completely in love. She wanted to be with me forever she said. Well she went back to school, and I visited her a lot. She visited me also. Toward the end of the year she was acting like she didn't care about us anymore. When she came back for summer things seemed for the most part normal. We both loved eachother, we spent a lot of time together. Then I went on vacation and found out she was being very flirtatious and hanging out with one of my good friends. I called her out on it and she said she didn't know what she wanted anymore, but she didn't want to break up. When I got back she told me she needed time to think. So I gave her some time. During that time i found out she was hanging out with my friend again. So I broke up with her. The conversation we had before this when she said she needed time. She told me she wasn't happy and was afriad to stay in a relationship that she might not be happy in. I later found out that around the time she was acting wierd while at school, she was texting and talking to my friend. She said it all started when I wasn't available so she called my friend to get a hold of me and they talked that night. I was totally oblivious to all of this. She said she loved me all the time, she acted like she loved me when were together this summer, and we hung out almost everyday. During this time i had no idea she would sometimes flirt with my friend. Now she told this guy she still loves me but her and my friend are dating now. She tries to keep it a secret but i know. The weird thing is my friend is a little over wieght he has no job and flunks every community college class he takes. What I am wondering is why I think that she went for him because she was unhappy and she knew that he was basically obsessed with her. I think that she wanted out and since he was the easiest target she chose him. Now she acts wild she rarely attends her classes and has been doing drugs and stuff. I'm not talking about pot either. Sorry for such a long story but i would like to know your opinions on why this happened. I am very confused, but cannot and will not ever try to talk to her to get answers. Oh and she never told me she was unhappy until i caught her basically cheating when i was on vacation. So i had no idea anything was wrong.
TaraMaiden Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 well, I hate to tell you this, but the only person you will ever get answers from, fer definite, as to why all this happened - is her. we can all throw as may opinions, views and suggestions into the ring as we like, it astill won't give you a sure-fire answer. only she can do that. but - guess what? She won't want to do that. Because giving you a straight answer, an honest one - will mean admitting her flaws and responsibilities, and no guilty party wants to do that. Look, if criminals plead not guilty, tell lies and go to trial, even with overwhelming evidence that says they're guilty as hell - why do you think that she would be honest with you here? people lie all the time. if not to others, then themselves. She did what she did because she made the choices to do what she did. you are convinced they were the wrong choices. you're probably right. but nothing would convince her of that, at the moment. so I'm afraid that's the best anyone can do. keep carrying on carrying on. good luck.
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