what is her problem?

[transamb0y]

my gf just dumped me and a day late i ran into her mom at the mall. i asked her mom for some pictures that we took of our trip. when her mom asked her for the pictures she asked what for and she told them for me. her mom called me the next day and told me that my now ex was furious at everyone and said that i should ask her personally. when she ended it she said dhe would like to be friends and i told her that i might not be able to her and she said to call her if i need anything, but it hurts and she knows it. why is she mad and what advice can you give me. should i get the rest of my stuff with her there or not there. i am trying to have no contact and move on (even though i would like her back). please give me some advise and input

[Adri Ana]

Calm down , fresh your mind up , let some days pass , ask again same question . But yourself . As you decide only for your life . Understand ?

[GrayClouds]

my gf just dumped me and a day late i ran into her mom at the mall. i asked her mom for some pictures that we took of our trip. when her mom asked her for the pictures she asked what for and she told them for me. her mom called me the next day and told me that my now ex was furious at everyone and said that i should ask her personally. when she ended it she said dhe would like to be friends and i told her that i might not be able to her and she said to call her if i need anything, but it hurts and she knows it. why is she mad and what advice can you give me. should i get the rest of my stuff with her there or not there. i am trying to have no contact and move on (even though i would like her back). please give me some advise and input

 

She is playing a game to keep you interested nd boost her ego until she tired of it or finds someone else. Send her a message asking when you can pick up your items. go there with a stiff upper lip, don't let in to her that it is difficult on you and when done go strict no contact. Avaiod the drama she wants to create.

[RYKR]

Yup she is playing games with you, forget her. Plus why do you need pictures of past trips? So you can sit in your room, look at them and cry over spilled milk! Be a man and do the right thing, forget about her. If I were you throw away any items that remind you of her. Also leave the stuff that belonged to you at her place. Your mind is tricking into an excuse to see her one more time, so maybe she'll change her mind. Your starting fresh remember.

 

What ever you do, don't contact or answer anything calls, text etc. from her, her friends & family members. Females are egotistic creatures, so she'll be testing you when you least expect it. If your on any internet social networks, delete her contact because you will be tempted to check up. This may sound silly but if you find out she has a new guy, your going to be an emotional wreck again and you don't want that to happen. It will be worse the second time around.

 

I know I might sound harsh or an azz-hole, the best thing is to go into NC and let time heal everything. Trust me, time will heal most if not all everything. It will be hard in the beginning, there will be times where your emotions will replace logical thinking and you will have to be strong to fight them. I'm not going to lie, it will feel like hell for a while, like a very long roller coaster ride. So don't think this will go away over night.

 

I was in your shoes 9 months ago, I used NC in the beginning to believe that person will return or change their mind. Slowly the pain faded away, food tasted better and then it was gone. I didn't have those feelings anymore, and even better that person never came back because I didn't care. Eventually that person disappeared to the back of my head with no emotional attachments.

 

I hope this helps you and many other people on this board. Sometimes we need to smack our brain with some logic to wake-up.

 

 

Regards,