bac Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 I have a straight guy, 35 y.o., who has strange erection issues. At least it is strange to me. He wants to have sex, but he has no erection on any normal stimulus, including any touch, any kiss, any nudity display, any foreplay and anything else. He does not care for kisses, foreplay, any sexual fantasies, including pleasing a female. But, he is able to have normal erection. And he can have the normal erection ONLY with a female doing him oral sex. It is THE ONLY thing that turns him on. After that he can even have a quick vaginal sex to have an orgasm for himself. These are the only things he is able to do and he wants to do. Any explanations? Any suggestions?
foreal Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 And you are sure he is straight because????????
BCCA Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Never heard of that. If a halfway decent girl just stripped in front of me, I would probably get a semi-errection at least. Usually just making out does it, and any clothes coming off gets me more than ready to go. Im not sure what to say, do you mind going down on him to get him hard everytime?
LakesideDream Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Lazy, lazy, lazy... my guess is he's a frequent (2+ times a day) masturbator who uses lots of fetish pornography, and his body triggers are severely warped. Run don't walk.
boogieboy Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Hes not attracted to you at all. Not in the least bit, no matter what he says. Hes using you for quick sex and oral.
carhill Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Yep, throw this one back. He'll never reproduce, at least not willingly
alexlakeman Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Don't listen to the "experts" here.. could it be a medical problem????
northstar1 Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I have a straight guy, 35 y.o., who has strange erection issues. At least it is strange to me. He wants to have sex, but he has no erection on any normal stimulus, including any touch, any kiss, any nudity display, any foreplay and anything else. He does not care for kisses, foreplay, any sexual fantasies, including pleasing a female. But, he is able to have normal erection. And he can have the normal erection ONLY with a female doing him oral sex. It is THE ONLY thing that turns him on. After that he can even have a quick vaginal sex to have an orgasm for himself. These are the only things he is able to do and he wants to do. Any explanations? Any suggestions? Does he watch a lot of porn?
sibylline Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 im going with the porn addict/ excessive masturbator theory. though there could be emotional issues that limit his erection only to times when he feels in complete control or something similar.
carhill Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I watched a ton of porn and had a 20 year subscription to Playboy magazine before I gave it up at 35. Pounded a bunch of pud. Spanked the monkey hard. Once I started, there was no stopping. No orifice was sacred. Women were to be explored and pleasured. This guy's either gay or has psychological problems. Heck I don't think I'm completely sane but I know I love making love with a woman. OP, sincerely, move on.
stepka Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I'm going with the gay theory, but wondering why he'd even bother to try doing it with a woman. My gay husband was very responsive to me until he was about 45, so he had to be at least bi. It could be the porn--and probably the very nasty stuff too--not your garden variety playboy. Or it could be physical, so if won't go see the doc, it's probably one of the 2 above. And if he won't go see the doc, I'd give it up.
Ariadne Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Any explanations? Any suggestions? All guys have different things that turn them on. This is his thing, you are not going to change him.
carhill Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 It could be the porn--and probably the very nasty stuff too--not your garden variety playboy. Ever spent much time on Usenet in the binaries? I hope not. It's pretty dark in there. It was around long before commercial porn sites. If the OP's guy was in deep, he'd be acting out the stuff. Bi- is an interesting theory. Hmm.... but, still, the specificity of sexual activity is curious. OP, did he ever suggest anal sex?
Author bac Posted September 11, 2009 Author Posted September 11, 2009 Does he watch a lot of porn? He told me that he is not into porn. He told me that he is masturbating in moderation. I told him that even I do that and he replied that I am probably some kind of a pervert. He was married with kids. I put gay porno for him and he really hated it.
You'reasian Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I have a straight guy, 35 y.o., who has strange erection issues. At least it is strange to me. He wants to have sex, but he has no erection on any normal stimulus, including any touch, any kiss, any nudity display, any foreplay and anything else. He does not care for kisses, foreplay, any sexual fantasies, including pleasing a female. But, he is able to have normal erection. And he can have the normal erection ONLY with a female doing him oral sex. It is THE ONLY thing that turns him on. After that he can even have a quick vaginal sex to have an orgasm for himself. These are the only things he is able to do and he wants to do. Any explanations? Any suggestions? I'm thinking that he just wants to get straight to business so to speak and isn't interested in the sensual/romantic side with you. You said that he dislikes gay porn - so there's probably a likely chance he's not gay. Also, seeing as the two of you are having sex and he's not banging some dude are additional confirmations.
Author bac Posted September 11, 2009 Author Posted September 11, 2009 Never heard of that. If a halfway decent girl just stripped in front of me, I would probably get a semi-errection at least. Usually just making out does it, and any clothes coming off gets me more than ready to go. Im not sure what to say, do you mind going down on him to get him hard everytime? Of course, I do not want it.
Author bac Posted September 11, 2009 Author Posted September 11, 2009 Ever spent much time on Usenet in the binaries? I hope not. It's pretty dark in there. It was around long before commercial porn sites. If the OP's guy was in deep, he'd be acting out the stuff. Bi- is an interesting theory. Hmm.... but, still, the specificity of sexual activity is curious. OP, did he ever suggest anal sex? I suggested anal stimulation for him and he rejected. He did not ask me for anal sex.
Art_Critic Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I'm voting in on that he isn't physically attracted to you.. you don't turn his crank.. so to speak. I thought it right off after reading your OP and then googled on it and found this... http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/1027.html Even though this webpage isn't really a medical diagnosis I think the direction is correct.. Either he is just having a hard time (no pun intended) becuase of the friction or he just isn't in to your body enough to keep it up...
You'reasian Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I suggested anal stimulation for him and he rejected. He did not ask me for anal sex. What kind of relationship do you have with this guy?
Author bac Posted September 11, 2009 Author Posted September 11, 2009 What kind of relationship do you have with this guy? a casual relationship of 4 dates
MichiganMan222 Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 He may require fantasizing about someone else while you're down on him. Does he close his eyes during intercourse?
kizik Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I would also suggesting wiping his anal nether-region when he requires it of you.
MissJoness Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I'm voting in on that he isn't physically attracted to you.. you don't turn his crank.. so to speak. I thought it right off after reading your OP and then googled on it and found this... http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/1027.html Even though this webpage isn't really a medical diagnosis I think the direction is correct.. Either he is just having a hard time (no pun intended) becuase of the friction or he just isn't in to your body enough to keep it up... Why do you have to hurt the OPs feelings? He's not physically attracted to her ? Maybe it's HIM.
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