northstar1 Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 When your in a committed relationship how much sex do you personaly need to be happy. I'm a man and personaly I'd be happy with sex 5 times a week... but could probably handles as little as 4 times a week. When it starts getting that dangerouse zone of 3 or less a week its gets scary and upseting from my point of view. So what are your views on how much sex you'd like each week in a good relationship? As a guy in his 30s, I can say that I think I'm normal to want sex pretty much everytime I spend time with my gf, so maybe 4-5 days a week. The pleasant thing is that she actually might have an even higher sex drive than I do. Whenever I've even tried the "I'm kinda tired tonight......." excuse, she's adamantly knocked aside that excuse with "I don't think so............"
sweetjasmine Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 ~5 times a week is ideal for me, and less than twice a week would not be enough, depending on the circumstances.
always_searching Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 The optimist in me wants to believe women are this interested in sex, but as a guy who has been through a few pretty long relationships, this rule generally applies for about the first six months to a year, and then starts to fade to the point where 5 times a month is more accurate. I think you just need to find the right woman. 5 times a month?! ...I would die. I mean, as a woman who wants to have sex in her marriage: I think I would physically wither away at 5 times a month. I think most guys would agree, but most married guys would tell you that they would be happy with 1/8 of that. Seriously, I cant imagine guys are ever the ones slowing down the sex train, yet very few married couples are having sex anywhere near that often. Which I think is horribly sad. Not to suggest that all affairs happen due to lack of a sexual relationship, because that would imply some amount of ignorance on my part: but, if married guys are getting sex only ever-so-often, no wonder many of them consider cheating. I mean, like I said, if the circumstances called for it (tired, ill, away on business, etc.), then fine. However, if all is well and nothing is happening in the sexual department, I would probably desire to get it elsewhere--though, I doubt I would act on that desire. Course, I also doubt that would ever be the case, as I wouldn't get married unless the person feels the same way about sex as I do. LOL, which shouldn't be a problem as I am, apparently, a man when it comes to sex... I think this is a pretty accurate amount for most women. With my ex, we started having sex every day, sometimes several times, and by the end, had sex maybe 4-5 times a month. I can promise that it want because of a lack of desire or trying on my end. I'm very sorry to hear that, BCCA. Well, no wonder you are worried about marriage. I too know women who use sex to trap men and then stop having it once they are married, or, rather, once they have children. Personally, though I believe in being open to procreation (as I am Catholic): I highly value the unitive aspect. Sex, if considered properly and not for mere lustful satisfaction, has the power to make two people as one--not only from a biological viewpoint, but from a spiritual one as well. Sex is a wonderful thing.
MSUE Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 a week...probably 6-8 times...we have been together for 2 years...1 living together...don't get me wrong sometimes we hit a week where its 3 but then we both start getting anxy and we light up the candles as soon as he comes home from work;)
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