eeyore1981 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 I have been posting a little bit in here and in the Infidelity thread. I have a lot of hate, bitterness, and just downright meanness in me right now. That is spewing out in most of my posts, because I need to get it out of my system. How I am presenting myself in RL is different than how I am presenting myself in here, and I am able to be a better, kinder person in RL because I am venting in here. I hope people reading my posts understand that. My fantasy is to pack my bags right now and leave, snap my fingers and have it all be done and over. That isn't going to happen. We have a business together that we have both worked hard for, and other assests to split. I figure it is going to take at least 4 months before I can physically make my escape. I would like this to be as amicable as possible. One of the things I'm doing is avoiding him as much as possible, but 4 months is a long time, and we are going to have to talk some between now and then. The other night, after I went to bed, my husband rolled over and put his arm around me. I was able to hold his arm instead of throwing it off of me because I had come in here earlier and ranted like a lunatic. Thank you all for the opportunity to unload in here, instead of in my RL.
PWSX3 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Don't know your story, but if you are still living together is there a chance of making things work???? Maybe both of you were working to hard on the business & not on the relationship. Just a thought, like I said; I don't know your story.
TaraMaiden Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 'Real Life'..... as in day-to-day existence, as opposed to interacting on forum.... (it's still 'real life' on a forum, but in an alien way, because all you have is black-on-white writing, from faceless people in different places....)
silverfish Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Eeyore. You don't have to wait til you sell the business, you can work together and get through it and do whatever you have to do. It is hard, but the hardest thing is having to develop a business relationship without the personal stuff going on. For me, this what made my mind up. I saw from fairly close up, how my ex behaved without me, with a bit of freedom and no obligation towards me. have you looked into Narcissistic Personality Disorder? If you haven't - have a look and see what you think - just the therapy stuff and the mind games struck a chord with me
HappyAgain Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 The meanness and bitchiness is a perfectly normal reaction at this point in the breakup. Just release it here if it helps you make it through your day.
Author eeyore1981 Posted September 11, 2009 Author Posted September 11, 2009 Eeyore. You don't have to wait til you sell the business, you can work together and get through it and do whatever you have to do. It is hard, but the hardest thing is having to develop a business relationship without the personal stuff going on. For me, this what made my mind up. I saw from fairly close up, how my ex behaved without me, with a bit of freedom and no obligation towards me. have you looked into Narcissistic Personality Disorder? If you haven't - have a look and see what you think - just the therapy stuff and the mind games struck a chord with me I have wanted to move away from here before I ever even moved here. I have no plans to move down the road, I will be moving over 2000 miles away, unless I can afford Europe, then I am moving there. So I do have to wait until we can work something out on the business before I go. I will only give him so much time to find a way to buy me out, then I will offer it up to whoever is interested. I'm not playing any more of his stupid games. As far as the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I am not a psychiatrist and can't make a professional diagnosis, but if my husband isn't suffering from that I will eat my dog and my cat with A1 sauce.
Author eeyore1981 Posted September 11, 2009 Author Posted September 11, 2009 The meanness and bitchiness is a perfectly normal reaction at this point in the breakup. Just release it here if it helps you make it through your day. It does, it helps a lot. The people that come in here know what they are getting into, so it doesn't feel like dumping on someone who may not want to hear it. Also, for me, anyway, it makes me feel better if I can help someone else. Then, when given the opportunity to have fun, I am able to put all this crap aside for a while and really have fun. I played golf in the rain today with a couple of friends for almost five hours, and spent most of that time LMAO. They know nothing about what is going on in my marriage, and for now, that works best for me. Thank you all for all the support.
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