michaelme Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 im a 16 almost 17 year old boy. I look decent but i dont socialize much . i had 3 girls interested in me when i was 12 and 1 of them said yes when i asked them to a school dance and then eventually she was going with someone else and so i guess i was rejected , but her best friend said she had a huge crush on me (she did at that time but now she doesnt remember me though) but then after that i asked another girl to that dance and said no. and then i heard that this hot girl liked me but that didnt turn out to be anything since i failed to do anything about it. a few months later the other 2 girls asked me to "go out with them" and i put that in quotes since we werent old enough to "go out" and then one of them broke up with me and the other one who i was kind of "going out with" all this time since she liked me and i liked her made it official we were bf /gf after the other one broke up w/ me. Well after that relationship ended, i asked out like 3 or 4 other girls in the same week (yes i was desperate and in 7th grade) , well then eventually this girl i barely met and didnt notice before ( shes not attractive and neither was her personality) "asked me out", now this one did not involve dating but i saw her every week. i kissed her once and she hugged me a lot and we hold hands and we called each other, so this was probably my first somewhat serious girlfriend. well this lasted about a month and a half ( probably normal length for 13 years old) , and that same week i asked out this other smoking hot popular girl since my "friends" made a fake "love note " supposedly from her to me , they did this because i had told them i like her and they obviously werent real friends. well i asked her out because all the guys in that group except a few people told me to and i got rejected (keep in mind this was the same week that my gf broke up with me) , well anyway this other girl who i only saw once got my aim screename and said she liked me and to call her and stuff which i did , she was a friend of my ex gf. we went on a date and continued to talk to each other for like a month or so. there was no breakup since we werent in a relationship and had only had one date we both just kind of realized things werent going anywhere in the "relationship". later that year i asked out a girl ( similar story with those same people wanting to watch me get rejected and i was dumb enough to hope that "maybe just maybe " this girl (its a different girl than last time) might like me but i got rejected this time since she said "she had a bf") , and i got rejected by this other girl that same year. Well this one girl that year acted like she liked me and i truly think she was flirting with me and i think she even said "hey sexy" but when i asked her out i was rejected. Well i gave up on asking out and i thought that the girls would just ask me out like they had done in the past, but then one year, then two years, then 3 years and now almost 4 years passed and nothing. then i came back to trying to get a date when i stopped expecting the call or instant message from some girl that i barely know who got my instant message screename from someone. this girl says its a possibility and we should get to know each other more , its genuine since she instant messages me and gave me her number and stuff and acts like its a possibility. this other girl i was flirting with i asked for her number and she gave it to me and i asked her out a few days later and got my first ever "Yes" response but she also said that her parents wont let her for 2 weeks. well this boosted my confidence with the ladies and so i decided to "practice" getting a girls number to this older girl in this college math class ( shes 21 and im 16 ) and she gave it to me and i knew it wouldnt go anywhere once i told her my age but it was good practice i guess. well a few days later the girl that said yes said "she cant " when i asked her what her parents said. the next day when i asked her when her parents said she could, she said that she didnt ask her parents because she was nervous what they would say. i took this as a sign of lost interest since she really didnt ask her parents after all , but i found myself trying one last time with her when i asked her to the homecoming dance and she said "i cant". Rejected again i guess and she only had "okay" looks, shes not even hot and i was probably the only guy who asked since she is also shy and ive never seen another guy trying to talk to her, she could just be too shy but im not sure. how do i get a girl?
bayouboi Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 I've had a few girlfriends tell me they are most attracted to paragraphs.
boogieboy Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 I only read the last few sentences, and you seem to understand when w girl loses interest by her lies. Good boy.... Heres how to make things happen. Youre probably already doing it. Its not about just asking for their number. Girls give that up just to make you go away sometimes. Of course you know that to make a girl want to give you her number, she has to want to talk to you more....to want to be interested in you. So before you ask them out, or ask for their numbers, make sure you talk to them first about interesting things, tell them funny stories about where youve been or what youve done, or what youve heard about. Stuff they can jump in the conversation. Dont ask anything about her personally until she asks about you. Once she feels comfortable enough with you to share interesting info about herself, then you ask for her number. You might even have a common interest that you can say "hey maybe we can go to this...". You dont make a date until you talk on the phone. Thats it.
Green Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 your 16 years old, I didn't even have friends that were girls until college... heck a didn't really start dating till the end of college. Look man I was there to and it sucks, but I could have made it alot easier on myself if I was just more confident and didn't wory. Figure a way to be confident and you;ll be fine with the ladies. When your confident in yourself you just end up enjoying the interaction with girls and you stop worying all the time. You'll also be more sucessful as confidence, along with fun are the two things women fing most attractive in a man. The problem is just telling some one to be confident doesn't help... but you should refocus on being more confident and worrying less about all this. Like I said I'm doing great in fact I have the perfect gf.... and I didn't start dating till the end of college... didn't even talk to girls till college... and I started worying about all this stuff like you when I was young... but I wish I didn't. If I could do it all again I wouldn't even wory about girls, it all works out
CaliGuy Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Go buy a book called "No More Mr Nice Guy" (Glover). It teaches boys how to be MEN and how to build confidence and self-esteem and NOT be a door mat nice guy. It'll be the best $10.00 you ever spent in your life.
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