BackonTrack2 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 hello all, my ex and i broke up about 17 months ago. she was sucking another's cock. i grew enraged and broke up with her then begged her to come back but she just broke me more with words, in hindsight, she wanted to leave but never had the courage. yesterday while with my cousin i checked her FB. She still has pictures of us. When the breakup happen I was so hurt and i deleted everything, and threw away everything, i just wanted to forget, i remember thinking "its best if you don't remember" i did such a good job of getting rid of everything, i started to panic and realize i would haven nothing left which i don't. i want to contact facebook and have them removed. i don't want her to even remember me. i am a grown man 25 years old. why do i even care? right now, i feel like a child with these childish tactics demanding she remove a face book picture. in reality though, i won't do anything, i've learned that this is my burden to bear and what i am feeling has nothing to do with her but its MY ****ing picture, that whore should delete me. i realize now that i am still angry, is this bitterness? am i being bitter?
Nynnja Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Sadly, that's something only she can do herself. After I had the falling out with my ex, we were NC and when I checked hers there were pictures of us and our puppy in the "family" album. Completely destroyed me. The best thing I can advise is to just stop checking. While I won't agree 100% with the "it's best if you don't remember" mind-set (you can't heal from it if you avoid it) I will say you did the right thing by taking action. If she wants the photos bad enough, they'll stay there forever. But that's her problem now. All you can do is hope that everytime she looks at them she remember how good you were to her and how wrong she did you.
Author BackonTrack2 Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 yeah... I guess i was a tad bid upset earlier, i'm not sure why, it doesn't make any sense to me really as to why i should even care and as i am writing this to you right now, i honestly feel nothing its just strange though to me atleast, let me move on, delete the pics man, its common curiosity.... odd though she kept it, i guess she wants to remember, who knows at this point... i wish i didn't get involved with her. that relationship brought with it to much pain.... it wasn't worth it for me, i didn't get nothing out of it. i lost more than i gained.
Nynnja Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 I know how you feel, if nothing else she could've at least kept them in a "private" album for her eyes only, or take them offline and keep them on her computer. But we'll probably never really know why anyone does anything. Yeah, we've all felt that way about one relationship or another. But if you healed from any pain caused by the relationship, then it's given you something that is priceless. Strength.
Author BackonTrack2 Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 Well, I guess there is always a upside to things I suppose. Strange though how after so long, it still semi-bothered me a for a few minutes. I guess I just have to keep doing what I was doing which is NC and in time I will get pass everything completely. SO far NC = 18 months PS, that whore, I still don't want to be associated with her or anything related to her, I am going to contact FaceBook and anonymously report it... Fawk that.... [WOW, I sound like I'm angry but I'm not, I just don't want that whore to have anything associated with my likeness] This is silly man.. Its not worth it, who cares, it was a nice picture anyway
splintered thing Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Why wouldn't someone keep such pictures? Breaking up doesn't mean your time together was never a part of her life. Relationships end or change, but that doesn't mean you have to stop loving someone, cherishing the time you did spend together, or feeling that your experience together is a part of who they are. Maybe I've been unnaturally lucky, but all my exes are terrific people, and I'd never throw out everything related to them, stop caring about them, or erase the time we did spend together.
patkirk Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Speaking of pictures, I tore up my ex and I's paper based pictures, compressed one's I had in my computer into a zip file and encrypted it. I'm not ready to delete it yet, don't know why but I really don't want to remember her at all. I have pictures from previous relationships but this one just rubs me the wrong way, a month and a half of total NC has helped greatly and I'm afraid seeing anything reminding me of her would set me back to the start. Unfortunately she has pictures of us that are rather revealing and I'm a bit nervous about them, I don't want to break NC and ask her to get rid of them. By law I think they're her property too so there's nothing I can do about it. Facebook won't even touch that area unless she posts a picture of you that breaks their rules. Other than that, those pictures are her property, she can do with them whatever she wants.
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