boredtom Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 My ex gf is like different when we text. She doesn't laugh at anything I say like she used to, and she just gives me one word answers. Today I had a good conversation with her, she opened up a little. Well anyways I don't think no contact will work for her because I tried it and it backfired on me, and now she basically hates me or something. I need some advice on what to do. I try to act unintrested and act like I'm doing great but she just ignores it with her one word answers. What does this mean? I still want her back but I can't even get her to talk to me normally. she told me that she wanted to be best friends when we broke up and I asked her what happened to being best friends and she said she doesn't want to be best friends anymore. Any advice on how to make her interested in me? Please help
adamt Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 It sounds like she is losing interest. Emotionally detaching. She is your ex so she is not your girlfriend anymore. She coul dbe moving on and wants you to not contact her but hasnt the heart to tell you to stop. YOu should stop contacting her and see if she misses you. She only said she wanted to be friends to make it easier on breaking up.
Author boredtom Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 It sounds like she is losing interest. Emotionally detaching. She is your ex so she is not your girlfriend anymore. She coul dbe moving on and wants you to not contact her but hasnt the heart to tell you to stop. YOu should stop contacting her and see if she misses you. She only said she wanted to be friends to make it easier on breaking up. It was only last week when she was telling me that she still loved me and was going to chose between me or my old friend. And then we got into a fight like days ago and I told her I needed a break and today I find out she doesn't love me anymore and I just think she is saying that because she is mad at me for telling her I needed a break. When she gets mad she acts this way. But ill take your advice and not contact her I'm just going to wait for her to contact me. Thanks for the help really apreciate it.
NopeNah Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 she still loved me and was going to chose between me or my old friend. You LOST me right there! Why would let anyone put you in that position? I'd make that the easiest decision of her life and step the hell out!! If you think it'll EVER be the same after having to face that you're lying to yourself!
Author boredtom Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 You LOST me right there! Why would let anyone put you in that position? I'd make that the easiest decision of her life and step the hell out!! If you think it'll EVER be the same after having to face that you're lying to yourself! Yeah now I know that after thinking about it. I don't even know why I'm still trying. She put me through hell and I know that I made big mistakes too but I think if we really were meant to be then we would of worked things out by now. I'm getting really mad at her for lying to me and just feel like telling her off at some points. Ahhh I just don't know what to do anymore. I lost everything with her. I became a wussy.
adamt Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 It was only last week when she was telling me that she still loved me and was going to chose between me or my old friend. And then we got into a fight like days ago and I told her I needed a break and today I find out she doesn't love me anymore and I just think she is saying that because she is mad at me for telling her I needed a break. When she gets mad she acts this way. But ill take your advice and not contact her I'm just going to wait for her to contact me. Thanks for the help really apreciate it. How can she have loved you if she was trying to decide between you and someone else? Then few days later she says she doesnt love you . Action speaks louder than words. On eof my pet hates is people use the words "I love you" far too easily and they don't realise the effect it can have on the other person. It sounds like you are best away from her. Good that you are not going to be her lap dog and looking after yourself. I reckon it will drive her mad that you are not chasing after her. She may try to contact you, but you need to know she is genuinely wanting you before tryting to make it work
Author boredtom Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 How can she have loved you if she was trying to decide between you and someone else? Then few days later she says she doesnt love you . Action speaks louder than words. On eof my pet hates is people use the words "I love you" far too easily and they don't realise the effect it can have on the other person. It sounds like you are best away from her. Good that you are not going to be her lap dog and looking after yourself. I reckon it will drive her mad that you are not chasing after her. She may try to contact you, but you need to know she is genuinely wanting you before tryting to make it work I know what you mean and thanks for the advice I guess this is what I needed.....people to tell me what was really happening because I'm so blinded by love right now. I'm going to not contact her anymore. If she moves on and forgets about me then ill just know that she is a liar and probably didn't deserve my love and kindness. I can't believe I fell for the "we'll always be together no matter what" and the "ill always love no matter what happens and ill never ever forget about you" I feel like an idiot.):
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