istanbul Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Hey everyone; im new to forum. i just wanna share with u my story... before i start i must say that i never could imagine someday i was gonna be in that kind of relationship... but it happened.... i guess everyone feels like me Ok. My bf is Dutch, iam Turkish. We met in istanbul last year when he came for vacation and yes it was def love at first sight! Since then we started seeing each other every 4 weeks. And since May, we made this every 3 weeks, so actually we have seen eachother quite much for a LDR. he wants to move to my istanbul. He started looking for a job already... He is studyng Turkish... Here is my problem; his family is religious, they are strict christians. And they dont want him to get married to a non-christian girl... but me im nothing. But majority of turkey is Muslim. He convinced them im not muslim but still im not christian either. He took me to meet his family at april when i was in holland. His mum wasnt really friendly.... his dad was better to me..... İ feel really bad, i feel unwanted because of my nationality and possible religion.... His friends are humiliating me .... like for exemple he put a picture of us to his facebook, on that pic i am with swimsuit and i have a hat and his close friend commented on the pic ; 'you see? still a headscarf!' . That shows me his friends neither doesnt want me to date him. And im not even a muslim !! This all happens just because i live in a muslim country! İ dont know what to do...
pollyanna03 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 believe his love.believe yourself.hope you will be together.happy foreve
AnnPod Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Your post really made me feel ashamed of my own (western European) culture. I mean I'm German and not Dutch, but I really know that people here have a lot of weird prejudices, just because someone is Turkish, no matter if Muslim or not. Well the way you describe it he is very serious with you, and thank god he neglects the negative attitude of the people that surround him. Have you met his people? Maybe you just need to demonstrate that you are not like their clishé. Wish you all the best!
Island Girl Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 My husband is from a very religious culture. His family are extremely religious -- I am an atheist. I am sure they wanted him to marry within their faith. But he made his own decision and they had to accept it because he was set to do it whether they like it or not. They did - and they welcomed me into the family with open arms. The person who wrote that comment on your picture is an ignorant jackass. Your boyfriend can delete the comment and when you tell him how much it bothers you (it SHOULD bother him) then he should delete it immediately. If he doesn't, then maybe you need to have a conversation about how those bigoted comments are hurtful to you. He is taking steps to move there to be with you. Enjoy that. He obviously is very committed to you -- He is taking TURKISH! So what do you do? You enjoy the fact that you have found Your Love. And that you will be together soon. And that you have your whole lives ahead of you.
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