Cora Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 This is about the fwb guy I used to post about for those of you who remember. The one I decided just to be friends with. I haven't heard from him in awhile which really didn't bother me since we are just friends now....not even good friends. It's more platonic than anything. We just talk and catch up when we get a chance. Last night, after not hearing from him in two weeks, he sends me a text out of the blue which I thought was strange. We usually only talk online anymore when we are both on. Anyway, the text read "are you upset?" I replied with "no I'm not upset, why do you ask?" I'm not going to go into our whole text conversation here, but basically he tells me he hasn't heard a word from me in awhile and thought I must be upset with him. I told him basically that it goes both ways. I no longer chase after him anymore. Well, I go on to ask him how he is doing? Which he says he's doing good, but that he is moving this week. I go on to ask why? He tells me that his roommate just bought a house and of course that means he can no longer stay there by himself and afford to pay the rent. So I ask, are you moving with you roommate or someplace else? He tells me he is moving someplace else since he can't stand his roommates girlfriend. I say cool, where are you moving? Instead of telling me he responds by telling me I'm not going to like it. I don't understand what he means by this so I ask why? Is it farther away? He tells me no, but that he is moving in with this girl, but that I don't need to worry because she is just a friend. Okay correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought we were just friends so why would he think I would even care or be bothered by the fact that he is now going to have a female roommate? For all I know he could be lying and this could be his new girlfriend or something. Even though he swears he has no girlfriend. Whatever the case may be why would he feel the need to tell me all of this? Do you think he is just trying to make me jealous? He later gets online and we talk for like four hours and catch up before I finally tell him I was tired and going to bed. He tells me he wants me to come over again sometime, see his new place and hang out with him etc. Just like we used to do. But he never would tell me where he lived and was very vague by saying oh it's off of such and such road. No matter how many times I asked he would skip around the question or completely change the subject before finally saying oh I forget the name of the place since I have only been there once, but as soon as I find out I'll let you know. I find that odd that he forgot and if he did then why not just say so in the first place? I'm not sure why or what he is trying to hide from me if anything. He is the one who told me he was moving and that I should come by. Yet he does not want to tell me where he lives. I just don't understand why he is telling me all of this after not hearing from him in awhile? And why the heck is he being so secretive about it? What is he trying to get at here? I am just curious. If we are just friends at best, why would he think I would care about him moving in with a girl? I can't help but get the feeling that he is just trying to be mean for some reason. I'm not sure why since things have been going pretty good, when we do talk it's very pleasant and he is helping me with my job search etc. Any thoughts?
Isolde Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Without knowing more context about your previous interactions with this guy, it sounds like he genuinely wanted to see how you were doing, yet part of him wants to keep FWB on the back burner. He was vague about his location. It's possible that he just missed you in a weird way, wanted to talk and catch up, but has something going on with another girl? I would draw boundaries here cora, by which I just mean to keep your friendship light and straightforward. It doesn't sound worth it, to either party, to get drawn into drama of any kind.
dreamergrl Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Cora, don't take this the wrong way.... But if you just want to be friends, why are you so worried about this? Keep it at a platonic level and that is it.
MeadowGlitter Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Maybe, the guy wants some sort of reaction from you. Who knows? Some guys can be a total douchebag.
Author Cora Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 Thanks....it is platonic between us. I just wanted to know why all of a sudden he contacts me and says hey, I'm moving and you aren't gonna like it because it's in with this girl. Why would he tell me all of this when he can see whoever or move in with whoever he wants? If he thinks I'm going to go back to a fwb thing then he is sadly mistaken. I'm not going down that road again. I just find it odd because things have been really great with us. We act just like friend and talk about everything under the sun and have a lot of fun together and then all of a sudden out of nowhere he brings this up? Anyway, I was just curious. But yeah, who knows? It could be a variety of reason. Thanks again
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Maybe, the guy wants some sort of reaction from you. Who knows? Some guys can be a total douchebag. That's what I was thinking. He's looking for the attention. Hoping you'd be like, "Noooo, I don't want you to move in with a girl!" What an asshat.
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