Serena2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 All I have said over and over is that I can't understand the SILENT transition from talking and discussing things, to getting the cold shoulder. Exit, You're hyperfocused on the sudden transition without explanation from contact to no contact. Perhaps someone said to her, "Look, by maintaining communication of any type with this man, you're leading him on ans stringing him along. You're giving him false hope. You need to stop any further communication of any type now." It's a painful transition to go from contact to no contact. Perhaps this is a blessing in disguise that's necessary in order for you to really start to heal and grow from this relationship which I have no doubt that you will. NC really gives you the chance to step back and evaluate even if you're not the one to initiate it. You're in the beginning stages and its going to hurt for a while Exit, but each second, each minute, each day that you move away from focusing on this relationship and toward knowing and loving yourself will make you stronger and stronger. You'll get there Exit. Be strong!!
stillafool Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 I agree 100%. If she has "already told me the deal" and I didn't get the hint, she could ignore me. Now we're five pages into this thread and people are still missing the fact that she was perfectly fine talking to me up until now. I have previously offered to end communication by blocking each other on myspace and she said NO. Yeah, I really missed all the big hints. Whatever, trying to discuss it here on the forums caused more trouble than it was worth. Okay Exit, I would say the reason she stopped communicating with you is because she was probably honest with her boyfriend that she is talking to you to help you get through this breakup and he said "stop it". They talked about it and she agrees wth him that it's best to leave you be and go on with her life and let you go on with yours. She didn't feel it necessary or helpful to tell you this to your face. Again, she thought you would get the hint. .
kizik Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 she thought you would get the hint. This guy doesn't get hints. He refuses to. The only way he's gonna be convinced she doesn't want him is if she physically stabs or shoots him.
stillafool Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Yes, I'm so in denial, I'm so certain she is going to be in my bed tonight. That's exactly what I'm saying. I'm not in denial. I don't think she's coming back. All I have said over and over is that I can't understand the SILENT transition from talking and discussing things, to getting the cold shoulder. There are 70 posts in this thread now and people keep trying to explain why she might be done talking "she's guilty, she's this, she's that". I don't really care why. All I'm saying is, whatever the reason may be, why could she not take ten seconds to tell me that our period of discussion was over, and it was time to be apart. Go ahead and personally attack me. You haven't been in my shoes. Thanks to those of you who replied with some sense of sympathy and understanding. No one wants to attack you here or make you feel worse than you do already. However you refuse to believe anything except what is in your mind. Why is it so important that she have a discussion with you about her not wanting to discuss anything with you anymore. Exit you seem to be a bit controlling. If your conversations with her are going anything like this thread she probably has told you in so many words but you refuse to see things anyway except for the way you want them to be. If you read the bolded sentence of yours above - does it really make sense?
carhill Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 OP, if this is interfering with your everyday life and ability to maintain your usual relationships with friends, etc, try psychological counseling. The answers to your questions are right inside your head and, with some help, you'll find them, and some peace. From a quick read of your history, and cognizant of my own, I offer that as a supportive suggestion. Best wishes
Beeotch Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 No one wants to attack you here or make you feel worse than you do already. However you refuse to believe anything except what is in your mind. Why is it so important that she have a discussion with you about her not wanting to discuss anything with you anymore. Exit you seem to be a bit controlling. If your conversations with her are going anything like this thread she probably has told you in so many words but you refuse to see things anyway except for the way you want them to be. If you read the bolded sentence of yours above - does it really make sense?[/QUOTE] LMAO...I don't mean to laugh but that is hilarious. It's true though....
kizik Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 There's a reason she stopped dating you, buddy, and as other people have mentioned, and it can be found in the bitter, delusional, controlling, narcissistic posts you've made here.
john1988 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Come on guys cut him some slack we all have slip ups. Exit please I've read your posts and took heart from them in the past, you've gave me some great advice, I know you don't really believe the stuff you are saying, shes turning you into a wreck, life is too short to be miserable.
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