Scarlett513 Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding in a few weeks and am going to the bachelorette party this weekend. I've been having a really hard time meeting guys and am starting to get frustrated - I want to be noticed!! It's being held in the city, so it's dressy. I want to look fun and approachable, but not slutty. The dress I'm planning on wearing is zebra print on the skirt part, black on the bust, and a hot pink sash at the empire waist. It's not super short or tight but it does show a little cleavage. Does this sound appropriate? Guys, what kinds of clothes make you take notice of a woman? Ladies, what kinds of outfits have you been noticed wearing?
kostoronto Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I just look for girls that look hot in what they're wearing. If you look good, I'll talk to you. It's not even having the best outfit. It's about feeling confident in what you're wearing. My last girlfriend was just effortlessly sexy. I can't even describe it. She would catch me just staring into her eyes. Haha I don't miss her...haha
Trialbyfire Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Scarlett, what gets you noticed is dressing to suit your body type, where it's clothing that you're comfortable and confident wearing. If you feel hawt, your body language will scream it!
sally4sara Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Tall boots in black Hot without showing much
Thornton Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Being slutty and hanging your breasts out or wearing a very short skirt usually attracts the wrong sort of guy imo. You're probably better off aiming for refined-but-sexy. Extremely high heels usually work for me, because I'm slightly above average height and high heels make me look supermodel-tall and slimmer than I really am. Other than that, I tend to go for nice dresses in bright colours, or dresses with sparkles on them - it makes me stand out because not a lot of people wear bright colours or sparkles. The rest is about body language - smiling and looking approachable and confident. Good luck!
bayouboi Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Wear a smile and a wink for every guy you want to notice you.
ReturnToSender Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Bayouboi beat me to it...My initial reaction was to say "wear a charming smile" Whether Im in a gown, or in dirty jeans and boots... Just flashing a sweet smile in a guys direction will have him stumbling all over himself. Men dont know enough about fashion to care about whats going on under your neck...unless youre showing off major cleavage, then not only will he not notice your smile, he wont notice anything else about you either. Soooo..I guess it depends on what sort of attention you want!
Thaddeus Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I've always been partial to the little black dress and stiletto heels.
sweetjasmine Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Scarlett, what gets you noticed is dressing to suit your body type, where it's clothing that you're comfortable and confident wearing. If you feel hawt, your body language will scream it! Yes, what she said. Wear clothes that are flattering for your shape. It'll make you look better, and your confidence and natural hawtness will shine through.
Lizzie60 Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding in a few weeks and am going to the bachelorette party this weekend. I've been having a really hard time meeting guys and am starting to get frustrated - I want to be noticed!! It's being held in the city, so it's dressy. I want to look fun and approachable, but not slutty. The dress I'm planning on wearing is zebra print on the skirt part, black on the bust, and a hot pink sash at the empire waist. It's not super short or tight but it does show a little cleavage. Does this sound appropriate? Guys, what kinds of clothes make you take notice of a woman? Ladies, what kinds of outfits have you been noticed wearing? What you described sounds really cute.. you must be young.. so it's OK.. if you're in your 40+ then I'd say no.. Go for it.. you like it.. you feel good in it.. wear it.. you got it.. flaunt it..
Left in a Lurch Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I don't pay attention or care what a woman is wearing, the only time I notice a woman for her clothes is if it is something that looks silly, like a giant hat or state fair sized sunglasses indoors. Most guys couldn't care less what color, if it really matches, how much it cost... but just that you look normal.
sweetjasmine Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I don't pay attention or care what a woman is wearing, the only time I notice a woman for her clothes is if it is something that looks silly, like a giant hat or state fair sized sunglasses indoors. Most guys couldn't care less what color, if it really matches, how much it cost... but just that you look normal. Picking the right thing to wear is what makes you look normal. Everyone 'notices' what everyone else is wearing even if they don't think about it consciously, and they react to people's appearances accordingly. Even if a person doesn't care about fashion or colors or any of that, the way other people are dressed and put together affects the viewer's perception of them.
Left in a Lurch Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Picking the right thing to wear is what makes you look normal. Everyone 'notices' what everyone else is wearing even if they don't think about it consciously, and they react to people's appearances accordingly. Even if a person doesn't care about fashion or colors or any of that, the way other people are dressed and put together affects the viewer's perception of them. I have never been attracted by a woman's clothes. An attractive woman looks good in jeans and a t-shirt, a dress, shorts, it really doesn't matter. That's why women have 50 pairs of shoes and I have 4. I look at the face, boobs, butt, and legs in that order. Clothes only catch my attention if they look really out of place. Other women might think wearing the right clothes will attract a guy, but I have never approached a girl because of what she was wearing. Some guys might if she is dressed slutty, but if she wears a pink dress or flower pattern with a bow will be of no consequence, except for all of the other women looking at her clothes. Besides, if I see a woman and judged her on her clothes, how long would that last? Until she wore jeans one night and she would no longer be attractive to me?
sweetjasmine Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I have never been attracted by a woman's clothes. An attractive woman looks good in jeans and a t-shirt, a dress, shorts, it really doesn't matter. That's why women have 50 pairs of shoes and I have 4. You've probably never thought, "Wow, that dress is amazing, I'm going to ask that girl out on a date." But that's not what I meant. An attractive woman can look very unattractive and go unnoticed if she wears the totally wrong thing. One of my good friends is a model - she's absolutely gorgeous, but when she runs out to the grocery store in sweatpants and an oversized hoodie, no one notices her. I look at the face, boobs, butt, and legs in that order. Of course. But what someone's wearing can emphasize or hide their face, boobs, butt, and legs. If a woman is wearing the wrong jeans, her butt might look flat, and you might not notice it. If she's wearing an oversized sweater, you might not notice that she has nice boobs hiding under there somewhere. If a woman is wearing a really long, shapeless skirt, you might not notice that she has nice legs. Clothes that are too small or too revealing can have similar effects. Clothes only catch my attention if they look really out of place. And that's true for most people. But my point is that someone's clothes and appearance affect the way they're perceived, even if the people looking at them aren't thinking about it. Other women might think wearing the right clothes will attract a guy, Maybe some think that. But I'm not arguing that. Wearing the right clothes will emphasize your good features and take attention away from your bad features. Emphasizing your good features will catch people's eyes. but I have never approached a girl because of what she was wearing. I believe you, but maybe you've noticed women because the way they put themselves together made you see their good features. Besides, if I see a woman and judged her on her clothes, how long would that last? Until she wore jeans one night and she would no longer be attractive to me? Again, it's not about the clothes specifically, but about how they make a person look. There's a reason why men's suit jackets have broad shoulders and button down low to create a V shape. There's a reason why a 3-button suit looks weird on some men but good on others. There's a reason why padded shoulders on a woman's suit looks ridiculous and there's a reason why people tried wearing them anyway.
lammie Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 You know, I've always those girls who dresses up where ever I go, "always over-dress, never under-dress", can't help the Fashionista in me. Sure, I get lots of notice but recently, I have started to purposely dress down when I go on my dates, minimal makeup, not even bothered with heels. One date, i only showed up in t-shirt and shorts. I find it very difficult to dress down on purpose, if anything, I'm actually getting more notices!
Trialbyfire Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 You've probably never thought, "Wow, that dress is amazing, I'm going to ask that girl out on a date." No offense to Scarlett but can you imagine a hetero guy saying "that little pink sash really makes the dress"!
sweetjasmine Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 No offense to Scarlett but can you imagine a hetero guy saying "that little pink sash really makes the dress"! Haha, yeah, "It really emphasizes your small waist, and that zebra print is daring without being tacky! Will you marry me?" (The dress sounds like it'd look cute, I'm just being silly. )
Trialbyfire Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Haha, yeah, "It really emphasizes your small waist, and that zebra print is daring without being tacky! Will you marry me?" (The dress sounds like it'd look cute, I'm just being silly. ) Tho thexy! In actual fact, a lighter sash makes a person's waist look larger. If you want your waist to look smaller, you go for a darker sash or belt.
sweetjasmine Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Tho thexy! In actual fact, a lighter sash makes a person's waist look larger. If you want your waist to look smaller, you go for a darker sash or belt. Yeah, but I think the more important detail is where you actually tie it - actual waistline vs. a little below the bust line at the smallest part of the ribcage, depending on your body type. Or you could just wear a t-shirt and ripped jeans.
Left in a Lurch Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 An attractive woman can look very unattractive and go unnoticed if she wears the totally wrong thing. One of my good friends is a model - she's absolutely gorgeous, but when she runs out to the grocery store in sweatpants and an oversized hoodie, no one notices her. But my point is that someone's clothes and appearance affect the way they're perceived, even if the people looking at them aren't thinking about it. There's a reason why men's suit jackets have broad shoulders and button down low to create a V shape. There's a reason why a 3-button suit looks weird on some men but good on others. There's a reason why padded shoulders on a woman's suit looks ridiculous and there's a reason why people tried wearing them anyway. No one is saying she should hide her face, but go to a supermarket sometime and look at all the good looking women, and none of them are dressed up, but they still look fine. The hottest women I ever see are at the supermarket and most are in sweats or jeans and t-shirts. We're not talking about looking like a slob versus dressing up exactly. I have never noticed a woman's shoes, nor do I care if they go perfectly with her weird assed hat that looks like a UFO landed on her head. Dress appropriate for the occassion, but the OP was asking what to wear to get attention. You get a guys attention by not over-doing the makeup, smiling, not looking too slutty, and being approachable and receptive to them, not because you accentuate certain parts. No to be crass, but if you have great legs and the rest is not very desireable, you can show off your legs all you want and it won't make me think different. Believe me, I can tell what you have under a sweatshirt and a hoodie, I'm a pro at checking women out and I have a pretty good idea what is going on under those sweats. The OP is trying to get attention, smiling and actually talking and showing interest in a guy will get attention, I doubt anything she wears will 'bag' her a dude or push his interest over the top. If she wants attention, approaching a guy with a friendly smile and an easy going attitude will get her attention. It's not like she is ever going to walk into the place with ZZ top playing in the background and a smoke machine behind her as all the heads turn and look at her. Most of the guys will probably be drunk and looking at the girl in sweats with "juicy" on her ass and baby butt crack poking out.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding in a few weeks and am going to the bachelorette party this weekend. I've been having a really hard time meeting guys and am starting to get frustrated - I want to be noticed!! It's being held in the city, so it's dressy. I want to look fun and approachable, but not slutty. The dress I'm planning on wearing is zebra print on the skirt part, black on the bust, and a hot pink sash at the empire waist. It's not super short or tight but it does show a little cleavage. Does this sound appropriate? Guys, what kinds of clothes make you take notice of a woman? Ladies, what kinds of outfits have you been noticed wearing? Err on the side of slutty, and you'll get noticed... (but do you really want to?)
Curious-One Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Wear a smile and a wink for every guy you want to notice you. You are heading in the right direction. I wouldn't necessarily wink as thats kinda creepy. Coming from a guy, easiest way to get noticed is to give eye contact and smile to anyone you like. Also try to be social with people there, it will make you look better. Someone said dont dress to slutty because you will attract the wrong kind of men. I fully agree with that, if you do that you will attract guys that are looking for easy lay.. GOOD LUCK and most importantly HAVE FUN
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