sickdog55 Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Ok guys most of ya's know my story.... she broke up with me, then started goin out with another guy... ok last time i talked to her was over 2 weeks ago now, i been N/c, She hasn't tried to text me or anything because i told her to leave me alone and let me heal and that i cant be friends with her just yet, She said "ok".... Latley she has been askin my friends where i am and if they have talked to me latley...because i have vanished from her life completly... why does she still have to know about me... she has a new boyfriend, im tryin to move on with my life, i know shes goin to contact me one day, what should i do if that happens, Ignore her?? I think she is insecure and immature and doesnt know what she wants in life, But the main question is why is she trying to find out stuff about me if she is so over me??? Thanks
john1988 Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Sounds alot like what happened to me SD, I think she doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you either. She wants you stuck where she can pick you up whenever she wants- don't give her the option. I don't know what you should do if she contacts you, either give her short to the point answers or probably the best idea is to ignore it, unless she is pulling out all the stops to get you back then she is leading you up the garden path. She does sound immature and insecure and she will drive you up the wall if you let her. She wants to find out about your life because you have taken control and she wants it back. Once you show interest again you will be tossed away for another few months, don't take the bait shut down everything she will go cuckoo wondering what you are up to. One final statement to think over- if she loved you then she would be with you. Don't play second best, the biatch has another bf for f sake!
Author sickdog55 Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 very good advice john, thanks heaps mate, N/c all the way, Unless she maybe wanted a second chance, But day by day the feelings for her are fading and im starting to think what i even saw in her lol its crazy
WiseOne1 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Great Post. I honestly can't answer that, but I have noticed what your saying. From personal and public experience I've seen this happen, they have someone new, but won't let the ex go, personally we know what happens when "WE" find someone new that we like or love, we completely forget about the ex and have no need or feeling to contact them ever again. However for some reason its becoming more popular of dumpers to, attempt to keep check on the ex, by calling, asking, about the person they wanted to break up with, the person they thought that they could do so great without. However from personal experience, ex's only contact you when there not happy in there new relationship, once there okay or happy again they completely disappear. My ex cried for about 3 hours str8 when I told her I don't want her to contact me ever again, I informed her that when we were together she had no need for a male friend or secondary person to have conversation with "I was the whole package"! The question of today is, since they wanted this new guy "why can't they let him be the whole package now?" Bassically un lest she wants you back, she's all his, not halfway mark, 100% NC until that time.
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