reservoirdog1 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Hi everybody. Not sure what category this fits under... I've been seeing my GF for just about seven months. Things are going really well. I'm in love, and she with me. Not to go overboard, but I feel like she could be the proverbial "person who's made me see why it never worked with anybody else". Anyway, there's one small issue I'd appreciate people's thoughts on. I have a friend, who I'll call "Steve", who I've become pretty close friends with in the last year or so. Steve got married in July this year, and I was MC at his wedding. My GF and I have been to a few events together with him and his now-wife. The last one of those was before they got married. Since the last time my GF and I got together with Steve and his wife, GF has told me that she "can't stand" Steve. Steve is very outgoing and personable; my GF's main objection is that she finds him quite phony and overly flirtatious. My GF is generally quite easy-going and gets along with most people, and does well in social situations. Anyway, the difficulty arises in that Steve and his wife really like me and my GF. My GF and Steve's wife hit it off quite well, such that my GF was invited to the staggette in June (but wasn't able to go due to work). They've said once or twice they'd like the four of us to get together for dinner sometime. The most recent was this past weekend, when I ran into Steve and his wife while grocery shopping. No concrete plan yet. I'd love it if that could happen. While I happen to like Steve, I actually can see things from my GF's perspective and understand what she sees in him that rubs her the wrong way. (However, what bugs her about him doesn't bug me about him. Different strokes, I guess.) And she hasn't told me I can't be friends with him or anything crazy like that. Anybody have any thoughts on what to do in this kind of situation? (And, I realize that if/when Steve and his wife invite us to get together I'll be raising it with my GF and will be seeing what she thinks, if I need to decline on a pretext or if she's willing to go but bite her tongue.) Thanks everybody...
laRubiaBonita Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 IMO your GF should just bite her tongue, suck it up for a night and go out. Maybe steve has calmed down some since she last saw him, people DO change overtime. plus it is not as if you 4 go out ever week or spend copious amounts of time together. can you honestly say that of all your GF's friends you like every one of them? (if you can awesome! ) but if there were some friends that you could do with out seeing, i would understand it- it doesn't reflect badly of you or that person... it's just not your preference. good to see you btw!
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