bluewolf17 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Does any other singles just really miss being intimate with someone? I have been single almost 7 months, and in the past month or two have been doing really great. In fact, I wouldn't mind dating again. Just lately I swear my hormones are going crazy! I just want to makeout..you know, be comfortable and have fun with someone. And people always make comments like "yes, your young, go out and meet someone and get some action!" Which is not what I want at all. I don't want "action". I want a great guy who I really like, and I want to get it on with him. :D. I just realized I spelled Intimacy wrong.
CarrieT Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 That has been the hardest part of being single for me. I thought it was just the lack of sex, but it really it is a lack of closeness and instead of the "night of," I really miss "the morning after..." the cuddling and whatnot...
boldjack Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 After a long relationship, being single can be very intimidating and lonely. You should try not to dwell on your "aloneness", but on self improvement, and social skills. To help combat lonliness, rely on friends and family. For your more intimate needs, rely on yourself, and maybe, sexual aids, until you find a new partner. Don't make the mistake of getting involved with someone, just for the sake of sex or intimacy. When you are the loneliest, is the time you should be the most selective. JMO. Good luck!!:D
northstar1 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Does any other singles just really miss being intimate with someone? I have been single almost 7 months, and in the past month or two have been doing really great. In fact, I wouldn't mind dating again. Just lately I swear my hormones are going crazy! I just want to makeout..you know, be comfortable and have fun with someone. And people always make comments like "yes, your young, go out and meet someone and get some action!" Which is not what I want at all. I don't want "action". I want a great guy who I really like, and I want to get it on with him. :D. I just realized I spelled Intimacy wrong. Well, I've gone through rather long stanges of being single in my life, and so I feel ya here.
Brady_to_Moss Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Your not alone trust me. Same boat as you. Having no sex is starting to kill me.
espec10001 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 7 months? HAHHA THATS NOTHING! Try going years then talk to me baby
Author bluewolf17 Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 7 months? HAHHA THATS NOTHING! Try going years then talk to me baby Gulp! No offense..but I hope it doesn't take "years" .
Lauriebell82 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 7 months? HAHHA THATS NOTHING! Try going years then talk to me baby HAHA, ditto!! I went like a year 1/2 it was hell! I was getting over a breakup though so I wasn't in the right place to think about being with anyone else for awhile. I know what you mean though, I missed the snuggling and kissing, watching movies, ect. Being a person not into "casual sex" I basically had to wait until I started seeing a guy I really liked and could be in a relationship with. I don't give it up to just anyone and it doesn't sound like you do either. You are smart. What about going on a date though? You don't have to jump the guy, just hopefully kiss him or be able to spend time with someone. You may feel better.
espec10001 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 HAHA, ditto!! I went like a year 1/2 it was hell! I was getting over a breakup though so I wasn't in the right place to think about being with anyone else for awhile. I know what you mean though, I missed the snuggling and kissing, watching movies, ect. Being a person not into "casual sex" I basically had to wait until I started seeing a guy I really liked and could be in a relationship with. I don't give it up to just anyone and it doesn't sound like you do either. You are smart. What about going on a date though? You don't have to jump the guy, just hopefully kiss him or be able to spend time with someone. You may feel better. HAHAHA. 1.5 years? And during this time it was hell? What, are you scared of yourself or something?
Lauriebell82 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 HAHAHA. 1.5 years? And during this time it was hell? What, are you scared of yourself or something? Scared of myself, what do you mean? Masturbate? Like I said, I don't have sex with random partners so yeah, it was hell going without sex.
espec10001 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Scared of myself, what do you mean? Masturbate? Like I said, I don't have sex with random partners so yeah, it was hell going without sex. Well, I'll spare the nasties little lady, since I can be a nice guy when I want to be. But it isn't always a bad thing to go for a long time without intimacy, because in that time the fire within only grows more and more, and when the fire becomes a blaze, a person learns he has amazing powers. However, the person must understand how to direct this power, not towards harming others, but helping them. So, for anyone reading this wondering why they have had a lack of intimacy for so long, take heart that the fire of passion is stirring, and it will not be long until you join the Revolutionary Movement.
Lauriebell82 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Well, I'll spare the nasties little lady, since I can be a nice guy when I want to be. But it isn't always a bad thing to go for a long time without intimacy, because in that time the fire within only grows more and more, and when the fire becomes a blaze, a person learns he has amazing powers. However, the person must understand how to direct this power, not towards harming others, but helping them. So, for anyone reading this wondering why they have had a lack of intimacy for so long, take heart that the fire of passion is stirring, and it will not be long until you join the Revolutionary Movement. I don't know what you just said, but I think the first time "back" is absolutely amazing, especially if it's someone you are in love with.
Author bluewolf17 Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 HAHA, ditto!! I went like a year 1/2 it was hell! I was getting over a breakup though so I wasn't in the right place to think about being with anyone else for awhile. I know what you mean though, I missed the snuggling and kissing, watching movies, ect. Being a person not into "casual sex" I basically had to wait until I started seeing a guy I really liked and could be in a relationship with. I don't give it up to just anyone and it doesn't sound like you do either. You are smart. What about going on a date though? You don't have to jump the guy, just hopefully kiss him or be able to spend time with someone. You may feel better. That is exactly what I miss. Mostly the casual stuff. I miss the making him feel good part too. I hear you though..I am just not that girl that can just be with anyone that intrigues me. He has to be special. And special is hard to find. I've been on two dates since the break up, both within the last three weeks. Nice guys but no real spark on my end. I don't want to force it. There is one guy I like but not really sure the feeling is mutual so we will see.
Lauriebell82 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 That is exactly what I miss. Mostly the casual stuff. I miss the making him feel good part too. I hear you though..I am just not that girl that can just be with anyone that intrigues me. He has to be special. And special is hard to find. I've been on two dates since the break up, both within the last three weeks. Nice guys but no real spark on my end. I don't want to force it. There is one guy I like but not really sure the feeling is mutual so we will see. Yeah, definately don't force it or settle for any guy. But it sounds like you are trying to get out there so it will happen!
Author bluewolf17 Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 Yeah, hurry up and wait comes to mind.
kizik Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 I've been on two dates since the break up, both within the last three weeks. Nice guys but no real spark on my end. I don't want to force it. There is one guy I like but not really sure the feeling is mutual so we will see. Trying to figure out which one I am... don't tell me, I'm not sure I want to know.
Author bluewolf17 Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 Trying to figure out which one I am... don't tell me, I'm not sure I want to know. Fine. But I don't consider what we had a date.
Cora Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 I can understand where you are coming from bluewolf. I have always wondered how it would feel to have that intimacy with someone you are in a commited relationship with. Not just the sex, but like you said the holding, the kissing and just that closeness. I think I long for that closeness the most. Casual sex just isn't the same you know?
Author bluewolf17 Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 I can understand where you are coming from bluewolf. I have always wondered how it would feel to have that intimacy with someone you are in a commited relationship with. Not just the sex, but like you said the holding, the kissing and just that closeness. I think I long for that closeness the most. Casual sex just isn't the same you know? I do know. Thanks Cora.
splintered thing Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Does any other singles just really miss being intimate with someone? ... __________________ This too, shall pass. I did a long time ago, but you get used to it...or at least it's possible to. I probably wouldn't remember how to do all that sort of stuff anyway...or I'd be a lot more awkward and unsure than anyone would be willing to put up with. It's not that bad. It beats being with someone who thinks you're absolutely disgusting.
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