Lizzie60 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Lizzie, Did you tell him "I am just no longer attracted to you sexually"? Were you that blunt? And how soon after you lost your attraction did you tell him? Yes I told him... at one point, I couldn't stand it.. I told him that I no longer loved him like I used to and that sex was not important anymore and I would do without it.. I even told him to get it outside.. just to keep quiet about it.. he was insulted.. We had many arguments about sex.... How soon.. I don't know.. I finally left...
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 OK, friends then? You know you open yourself up here on the forum with stuff you have hardly told anyone. Not so fun to be made fun of then. You understand that, right? Friends! Yes, I've had quite a few jokes made at my expense in these forums. There is a whole thread practically dedicated to calling me a homo... Doesn't it strike you as sad that there are complete strangers who know you better than someone you may sleep next to?
mem11363 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 I am starting to think no one is really neutral about sex with their partner. I think you are either at least somewhat attracted or you are somewhat repelled/sexually averse. I don't think people in "marital/romantic" relationships are capable of being truly neutral/indifferent. You at least respected him enough as a human being to be honest with him. And you gave him a humane outside release option. Yes I told him... at one point, I couldn't stand it.. I told him that I no longer loved him like I used to and that sex was not important anymore and I would do without it.. I even told him to get it outside.. just to keep quiet about it.. he was insulted.. We had many arguments about sex.... How soon.. I don't know.. I finally left...
Lizzie60 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 I am starting to think no one is really neutral about sex with their partner. I think you are either at least somewhat attracted or you are somewhat repelled/sexually averse. I don't think people in "marital/romantic" relationships are capable of being truly neutral/indifferent. You at least respected him enough as a human being to be honest with him. And you gave him a humane outside release option. I disagree.. I think some people can be totally indifferent to their partner. Those live like roomates... I gave him the option but he was insulted.. and he didn't take the opportunity.. I just told him to keep it secret.. but then I later had to say I was joking since he was really upset..
Author Juniper22 Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 Yes I told him... at one point, I couldn't stand it.. I told him that I no longer loved him like I used to and that sex was not important anymore and I would do without it.. I even told him to get it outside.. just to keep quiet about it.. he was insulted.. We had many arguments about sex.... How soon.. I don't know.. I finally left... Lizzie, were you just not attracted to him anymore sexually, and that's why you didn't care for sex with him anymore? If so what had changed, his appearance?
Lizzie60 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Lizzie, were you just not attracted to him anymore sexually, and that's why you didn't care for sex with him anymore? If so what had changed, his appearance? Nope his appearance was the same.. in fact he was very good looking.. I don't think there have to be any changes.. really... it's just like that.. I think people fall out of love, get bored... the monotony of day-to-day life.. etc... We can't always 'pin' a reason to what usually takes years to happen... it a slow process of a lot of small things that change. Hard to explain ...
jennie-jennie Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Friends! Yes, I've had quite a few jokes made at my expense in these forums. There is a whole thread practically dedicated to calling me a homo... Doesn't it strike you as sad that there are complete strangers who know you better than someone you may sleep next to? OK LOL I wll practice on getting that thicker skin then. I am relatively new to the forum so I am not quite used to the jargon yet. I guess sharing with these "complete strangers" has to do with the power of people in the same situation who are willing to be honest about it and share their story and experience. I am very open with my new partner, but there is a limit to how much he enjoys speaking about these subjects.
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