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Having such a hard time with nc and it's only day 9


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It's been a while from being here, I strayed to take your advice went nc on the love of my life and first love of 4 years. We did manage to meet up for a last conversation, where I told her to stop contacting me ( she always did so after 3 days) this where the main points:

 

I begged her to say she didn't love me no more. She did and later said I obligated her and it wasn't true.

 

She said he was moving to Spain for 6 months in January so did want to get hurt by letting me go.

 

She said she wasn't dating the other guy that they're just good friends.

 

Said she saw a future for us but had to take it slowly and proposed seeing every Sunday for breakfast.

 

I didn't accept. And now it's day 9 nc. I can't take it I miss her it kills me, I try going out and can't stop thinking about her. It makes me mad I cry for her and she feels nothing. What more can I do?? I don't want to text her, but I feel like I'm closing the small window she left open!! I hate loveeeew. Fun fact: wego out foe the last time and manages to make me pay for her families grocery (over 100 dollars) and her dad is my boss and owner of a huge company!!

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GP this is going too far, buying her groceries now? She is treating you like you are worthless, why are you letting her do this to you? She clearly isn't who you think she is. Brother you're worth more than second best please understand this and have some self respect. Don't listen to her poisonous words anymore she is evil!!!!

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I know man I know I keep reminding myself how much she hurts me and how she has changed so badly.

 

I need right now slaps in my face to get right and stop wanting to contact her. It's only day 9 does it get easier???

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At 9 days you are just getting to the worst of it. It will get worse, but then it will get better...well, the sadness will still be there, but it won't be this intense, panicky state that you're in now.

 

It will be different from now.

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Just wait til you are where I am. Day 90 (I think) is approaching next week.

 

It's just starting to get better. I can actually sleep now.

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At least you got to day 9. I can't even go 2 days without texting her or replying to her. I know what you mean about the open window she left you. I feel the same way, I wish you luck and I know this didn't help . But Just hang in there (I wish I could take my own advice)

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To get through the days of NC all i can recommend is fill up your spare time with everything and anything. Take up hobbies,join a gym, take up sports,read books..etc i'm over 3 months of NC and in some ways the time has gone quick. Take it day by day and plan things 7 days in advance. just give yourself no quiet times to sit and think about the ex

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