blackhair Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 My ex girlfriend broke it off with me 3 months ago and ever since then we have had NC. It happened outta blue. However, I seen her out 4 weeks ago and all the feelings I had for her came rushing back. I didn't speak to her or make eye contact with her that night. 2 weeks ago, I seen her out again and her sister called me over, and we had small talk but I didn't speak to my ex. The feelings I had were overpowering but I restrained myself as much as possible not to make contact. I decided to forward on the remainder of her stuff at my gaff to her and just enclosed a small note, stating that I was happy to see her looking so happy on the night out and I hoped all was going well for her. She responded with an email, thanking me for all the stuff and asked how things were with me and the family. I responded saying everything was cool and mentioned that if she ever wanted a chat, I wouild be there for her. She rang later that night and we chatted and decided to meet for a coffee the next day. Our coffee went well, I just acted all confident and didn't ask her about what guys she was with/seeing anyone etc. She asked me if I had being with anyone since, and I told her that I had met a few girls and was seeing how they would go. She mentioned that the break up occurred during a time when there was so much going on in her life and she was in a bad place at the time. She apologised about how things went and how she should have handled evrything so much better. It was a good talk and we laughed and chatted for about 2 hours. She said she was very nervous about meeting up but was happy to meet again. The dilemma now is, what do I do next. I love her and know she does go through some bad times (suffers from depression) but I want to be there for her through the bad times as well as the good. I can't imagine my life without her and I don't want to frighten her off. What do I do next, to get her back into my life?
JL911 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 A few things really would need to be established first and foremost. She said she broke it off due to it being during a time when there was so much going on in her life and she was in a bad place at the time.....I dunno about that, you really can take that excuse with a grain of salt. We all hit rough patches, but throwing away someone you care for is just downright selfish and very immature. While it may be true, she did it once, and it would be much easier the second time around...Do you really want to go through all of this again with the same person?...That is the main question you need to ask yourself. As far as getting her back into your life, seems as though she is already there, but her intentions are not yet clear to what she is calling and seeing you for. Is she lonely? Did she leave you to see what another guy was like and came back when she realized it wasnt right for her? Or are her intentions good and she realized she made a mistake...Its unclear, and I think that is why you are having this problem. I would probaly take it slow and be slightly cautious, but at some point I would try to make your feelings heard about why you are talking to her, and why you are hanging with her again. If the feelings or intentions are not mutial, I would say it would be time to cut all ties and just move along, heal, and find someone who has your best intentions at heart.
GrayClouds Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 So you want a second chance? Read this and you have your answers
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