Vlad Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 If I ever divorce my wife (we are perfectly fine, just saying) there wont be a force on this earth that could make to even think about a second marriage, never. thank you Word....... amen.......
Author Trialbyfire Posted September 9, 2009 Author Posted September 9, 2009 amen.......Vlad, what part of "I don't give a crap about first marriages" do you fail to understand? Go troll a first marriage thread with your bitter and cynical attitudes. K, thx, bye.
Vlad Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I think that most of us found that the issue was not with marriage but the partner we were married to. I'll also say that, considering the painful education I got the first time around, I went into my second marriage eyes wide open. Live and learn... Mr. Lucky Nup, I've come to the conclusion that I can marry any woman I want and we can be happy for the rest of our lives if I want to, thing is I can be as happy as I’m married or if I’m single, alone, free, all by myself, and since I've tried marriage already and if somehow it ends, then I’m ready to be single for the rest of my life. I'll have a relationship here and there but will never ever ever eva eva eva take it to the next level, never, not even close to have a concubine or anything like that. No thanks!
Author Trialbyfire Posted September 9, 2009 Author Posted September 9, 2009 Ugh...ignore time... Anyways...anyone else have any second marriage stories? I'm all eyes, curious to read about people who've had actual experiences with second marriages. Thanks.
sally4sara Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I said I'd never do this again but, I am tying the knot in Vegas this January. We will have been together 5 1/2 years, living together 4 of those years and engaged for a year and a half. With me starting out dragging my heels for every step, so yeah!, very hesitant! But my hesitation have very little to do with my SO and everything to do with how horrid the first husband was. I feel this is a much more well thought out decision on my part and there is a lot more integrity on his part than my ex possessed. We both look at legal marriage as less about romantic notion (tho we are romantic ) and more of a duel retainer situation. Read the "Hagakure" for a better idea. No master, but two retainers pledged to the aid of the other. It is a matter of honor even in anger. I wasn't looking for Prince Charming; I was looking for my shadow.
Thornton Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 My bf's second marriage was to an Asian lady. He hadn't been dating her for very long, getting married was her idea, and he was rather reluctant about the whole thing. He says he called it off the day before the wedding because he wasn't sure he was really in love with her and he wanted to just continue dating a while longer, but she was so upset that he reconsidered and went through with it to please her. He figured she seemed like a nice enough girl, and he was lonely and was flattered that someone wanted to be with him... but from what he's said they didn't seem to have much of a relationship, they hadn't even discussed fundamental issues like whether to have children or where they would live etc. He said that in the year they were married, she spent at least half of that "working away", and when she returned they were more like roommates with separate bedrooms. After about a year she got her green card, and a couple of weeks later she said she had to return to her home country to look after her sick parents, so she wanted a divorce. She filed for divorce and moved out on her own while making plans to go home... three years later she still hasn't gone back home, which says a lot! He is understandably reticent to marry a third time.
Author Trialbyfire Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 Thanks for your input sally and Thornton. If anyone else has any good or bad second marriage experiences, plse post your personal experiences, from going into it, to being in it and the cessation of it, if applicable.
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