muse08 Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 so, part of this belonged in another forum... i broke up with my ex about 4 months ago mainly because of several reasons: he called obsessively and was a tad bit possessive and when i didn't respond bcuz i was "working" he would get salty.he was literally always calling me and i didnt have a chance to call him much.additionally, his mother and aunt seem to control his decision making and sometimes to the point where they make me seem like a villan(not true),his 2 jobs don't allow him much time in the day, there's baby mama drama,i'm not confident that he has much of a backbone,and he has become vindictive so i've noticed. however, he claims that he just "loves me so much"(hmmm?) and that's why he calls so much and talks to his mother about every time i hurt him. he did try to provide things that i needed or wanted. i never really asked for anything but he would offer. i felt like he was trying to compensate for his 2 jobs and insecurity about not having much formal education, but calling all the time and offering to bring things to me that i needed on his way home from work.he wanted me to move in with him and stay over longer but i chose not to. i dont ever want to mislead a man because i wouldn't want it done to me. so i try to be fair.there are times when i will not answer his calls because i'm busy or just don't want to perpetuate his feelings for me.so when i finally decide to call him back he will do things like turn his phone off right after he calls me.then a few minutes later call me back and say something dumb like "think about how you make me feel" ... now though, i can't lie...i'm missing him and he still calls and offers to do things for me still.our physical chemistry is on point, but i need to be stimulated mentally as well,though i don't feel it with him.i have considered other guys since our breakup but nothing serious. i just need to know what i should do about him now. there are several issues that would exist with us being together and i tell him that we can't try to change each other.i'm sad sometimes without him, but i feel like i'm doing the right thing by following my mind rather then my heart this time.he is still trying to get back with me. i really dont know what to do...
Author muse08 Posted September 7, 2009 Author Posted September 7, 2009 yes in response to the anonymous question
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