Intricategirl Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Twice this weekend, I think my boyfriend dropped a version of "I love you and I hope you love me" but I'm not sure. lol The first time, he was playing around and fake pouting when I refused to let him give me a foot massage, and he said, "If you love me, you'd let me." I laughed and sort of brushed it off. Then today, we were in my car. I had just parallel parked badly and he was giving me a hard time about it. On the way home, I crossed about 3 lanes of traffic in the span of a block, and turned on a red light without stopping. He teased me about that and I said that at least I used my turn signal. He laughed and said that made it "pseudo-legal". I asked if pseudo-legal meant that it still wasn't legal, but at least I had an excuse to give the officer when I got pulled over. He laughed and after teasing me about it some more, he said, "I think I love you". And a few seconds after that, he said, "Or at least I love your driving." I didn't immediately return the ILY because we were teasing each other and having a good time, but the way how he played it off afterwards made me think that maybe he really meant it. At the time, I had just taken it as a version of "Damn woman, you're cool!" or "You rock!" but now I'm not as sure. Was I just absolutely clueless? I'll be the first person to admit that I can be about stuff like this sometimes. I swear, I need a guy to practically get on the level of thumping his chest and saying "Tarzan love Jane" before I get it. To me- actions speak louder than words, and the actions are there.
New Again Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 In my world "I love you" means "I love you."
Author Intricategirl Posted September 7, 2009 Author Posted September 7, 2009 I didn't know because it was his silly/playful voice, not his loving/caring voice.
Kamille Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 What a cute story! I love LSers in love :bunny:. I don't know what I would do in your shoes. Well, I would do exactly what you just did and ask the good people of LS. Sounds to me like he's working up the courage for the big ILY, so perhaps you could start teasing about loving him too, the way he does it to you. A good segway into it, at least in my experience, are variations on the line "I'm falling in love with you" as in, when he does something cute: "if your goal is to make me fall in love with you, it's working". Not quite I love you, but definitely heading in that direction.
New Again Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Ha, I didn't know people threw those words around! I guess I'm just super careful about what I say when I'm dating. I don't think guys would joke about that to their gf/a girl they're dating (at least I hope not!!). I think he said it, but is being shy.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Yes...he's testing the waters to drop the big ILY bomb. I like Kamille's advice about teasing him back with the "L" word.
sugarmomma Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 I would not say anything but let him work his way to saying the actual words. You don't want to ruin it for him. Just show him with your actions that you love him and he will say it. Then you can say "aww sweetheart, I love you too!" I'm so happy for you!!
likestolaugh Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 he loves you, and was definitely testing to see your reaction.
Dex Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 In my world "I love you" means "I love you." In my world too I think he said it.
Lauriebell82 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 he loves you, and was definitely testing to see your reaction. I agree. The comment "or at least I love your driving" was because he was nervous about whether or not you would return the ILY. The next time you are alone together look in his eyes and kiss him. With all that affection I'm sure he will go for it again. The question is do YOU love HIM?
looking4 green grass Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Cute story! It definitely sounds like he's testing the waters to see what your response is!!!
dreamergrl Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 I too like the idea of teasing back. I think it will ease him into it more. Maybe even inspire him to say it in his loving caring voice.
Author Intricategirl Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 The question is do YOU love HIM? Yeah, I think I do. But love is kind of a throwaway word in a lot of cases. With him, I guess the best way to describe it is that it feels like the meaning behind the words "namaste" or "aloha". I recognize the spirit within him because it's the same one that's within me. He "gets" me, and he's told me several times that he's glad I get him. And I wouldn't say that he completes me because I'm pretty complete all on my own and so is he- but he has actively looked for ways to help me accomplish my silliest, most insane life goals. If that's love, then yeah, I'm in. :love:
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