Shockedhusband Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Well I really haven't posted anything in a while so I thought I would send an update for all those who helped me out with my situation. The divorce will be finalized on september 17, we are still in the shortsale process on our house, we have a buyer lined up, we are just waiting for the bank. In the mean time we are both still living in the house. Everything is still amicable and we are getting by just fine. I am just looking forward to the house being sold so that we can both begin moving on with our lives. I really want to get out there and meet some new poeple but its kind of hard and alward when your roommate is you soon to be ex wfie lol I am actually just starting to do some online dating and have so far met some really nice prospective dates. This hole thing has actually been a very liberating process. I am no longer going to be tied down by a house that I owe to much on to sell it and I can really do whatever I want to with my life from this point on. I am not sure where the stbEX's relationship with the OM is. I am assuming they are dating but to tell you the tuth I just don't care enough to ask and I doubt she would tell me anyway. I will say this though I don't think there is any chance in hell that their relationship will work out. I almost feel like sending an email to the guy saying good luck meeting the in laws. I know for a fact that her sister and parents are still upset with her over all of this. At any rate I am looking forward to what the future holds and I want to thank everyone here that responded to my posts and helped me through one of the darkest stages of my life. I don't think I would have been able deal withthings and handle them as well as I did if it weren't for the help from this website.
KikiW Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Best of luck to you! It sounds like things are just around the corner for you, what with the sale of the house, and once that is done you will be free to move forward - literally.
Mr. Lucky Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 SH, I remember your original post and story. I'm also glad to hear that things are going well for you and that life becons. I'm sure you're looking forward to getting your own place. You might consider sticking around LS more. Based on your experiences, I'd think you'd be uniquely well suited to offer solid advice to those just starting down the path. Best of luck to you... Mr. Lucky
misternoname Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 I went through the same thing a year and a half ago. My ex and her OM didn't work out but she immediately hooked up with another dude she met in a bar and are now engaged...she said she's shared all her past with him (multiple affairs) but he's OK with it. Good luck to him. I personally would not want to marry a woman that just came out of a divorce due to her infidelities but to each his own I suppose. About a year ago I met a great woman on Match.com...she's wonderful. I feel blessed that I got out of a dysfunctional marriage and into a relationship built on mutual trust and respect. I won't lie...the time leading up to the divorce was awful. I thought my life was over. Stay strong and know that better times are ahead. Best of luck.
Author Shockedhusband Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 The worst part for me was finding out about the whole thing and then trying to deal with it through marriage counseling and finally realizing that nothing was going to change. After I made the decision to divorce everything has been uphill. I am back on the market and so far I have had some pretty good luck with the women
imagine Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I do not know how your situation is with other women. Do not forget to put in grieving time for the loss of your marriage. You need to be properly built up before hitting the market!
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