VideoKid Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 ]Basically, I split up with my ex after a month over a stupid little fight, we got back together soon after when we realised what we were missing. Everything after that was great for the rest of our relationship, he moved in, told me he loved me, the only thing we'd argue about it sometimes he wouldn't show me enough affection but I thought it was just his nature. We broke up a few days ago and he admitted that since that breakup at month one he'd never felt strongly about me (hence the lack of affection sometimes, he just wasn't that interested). He admitted he'd cheated whilst drunk and not told me and that he didn't really love me (despite telling me only a few days ago I was 1 of only 2 girls he'd ever really loved). He told me we were too different and could never see a future although he wanted to stay friends and still hang out at my house as he would miss being there ... and maybe there was a chance in the future if he saw a positive change in me? So confusing. I was in pieces knowing that all that time when I was giving him my all and enjoying his company when he moved in that he was never really interested in me, I felt so lied to. We spoke yesterday and he was nice to me but was very blunt with the point that he should have ended it the first time. We agreed to stay friends as we left yesterday on very good terms but I'm thinking NC might be the way to go or atleast not contact him unless he contacts me first. Obviously only he knows his reasons but can anyone shed any light on why someone would string someone along for so long? I'm feeling very confused at the moment.
Kamille Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Wow I'm so sorry! I do, however, find it hard to believe that he could have put up such a front for the time you were together. How long is that? Who ended the relationship? is it possible he is trying to bet back at you for something? And yet, I've been there. My ex and I broke up and made up (then broke up again, obviously). I initiated the first break and he said, afterwards, that he always felt "on his guard", like he couldn't trust me anymore. And while the break up tore me up, with perspective, a year after the break up, I am now very happy he isn't in my life anymore. I would recommand NC - not until he contacts you but until you feel healed from the hurt of the break up and the hurt of what he just told you.
Author VideoKid Posted September 7, 2009 Author Posted September 7, 2009 Thanks for your reply Kamille. He ended it technically. Its quite hard to explain, I was being a bit off with him saturday as deep down in my stomach I knew something was going on. I didn't know about how he felt or the cheating but when I woke up out of nowhere I had a sickly feeling that all was not right. We got into an arguement and he broke it off with me. I agreed as I felt something wasn't right and it was then after that I found out he'd kissed another girl while he was drunk and then yesterday that I found out all the stuff I'd mentioned before. He has no reason to get back at me. I was never unfaithful, i let him move in my house with me and my 2 housemates who loved him, he became and permanent fixture and friend in our house and we all really liked him.
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