neveragain2493 Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Friday, I went out with a pretty good guy (we've been talking for a couple of weeks and had been out before). The next day, he called and said, "You're amazing and mean the world to me. I had a wonderful time last night. If I did anything wrong, I'm so sorry." He called a couple of hours later and said he couldn't be with me. He said, "I just can't do it. You're way too good for me. You're amazing, beautiful, and smart, and I'm just dumb. You're almost perfect. I love you with every part of me, but I can't." I started crying, so he started crying. I said, "I don't understand, but you need to think about this. Call me back later." I left, came back, and got a voicemail of him crying, saying, "I can't do it. You're everything I'm not, and I know you'll find someone great. It's not me. Please don't call me back." Tonight, he calls me. He has a girlfriend now. I told him he basically disrespected me because a guy talked to me and asked me out, but I tried to be considerate to him by not rebounding. I told him he hurt me, and it still hurt. He told me about his girlfriend and said, "She's really smart. She reminds me of you. But you were almost perfect. It's just... you could always talk to me, and she can't. But I know you still like me, and you're making me feel bad.. I shouldn't have even called you. I don't know why I did. I don't want you to hate me. I just want us to be friends. But I'll call you tomorrow." What should I do?
EricaH329 Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Friday, I went out with a pretty good guy (we've been talking for a couple of weeks and had been out before). The next day, he called and said, "You're amazing and mean the world to me. I had a wonderful time last night. If I did anything wrong, I'm so sorry." He called a couple of hours later and said he couldn't be with me. He said, "I just can't do it. You're way too good for me. You're amazing, beautiful, and smart, and I'm just dumb. You're almost perfect. I love you with every part of me, but I can't." I started crying, so he started crying. I said, "I don't understand, but you need to think about this. Call me back later." I left, came back, and got a voicemail of him crying, saying, "I can't do it. You're everything I'm not, and I know you'll find someone great. It's not me. Please don't call me back." Tonight, he calls me. He has a girlfriend now. I told him he basically disrespected me because a guy talked to me and asked me out, but I tried to be considerate to him by not rebounding. I told him he hurt me, and it still hurt. He told me about his girlfriend and said, "She's really smart. She reminds me of you. But you were almost perfect. It's just... you could always talk to me, and she can't. But I know you still like me, and you're making me feel bad.. I shouldn't have even called you. I don't know why I did. I don't want you to hate me. I just want us to be friends. But I'll call you tomorrow." What should I do? Whoa. First thing you should do is take a step back and re-read what you just wrote. The answer is pretty obvious. You should do nothing! You went out with this guy on Friday? Last Friday?? As in 3 days ago Friday?? And he has a girlfriend already?? Wow... I really don't have much to say about this... except run. This guy is not right. There isn't anything about this guy that sounds or seems right. You should stop contact with him, let him live his life the way he feels he needs to, and move on. You've only been talking for a couple of weeks right? It shouldn't be too difficult to move on. Find someone that will love and adore you, perfections and all. That wants to be with you. That's what you deserve.
TaraMaiden Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 He seems manic and extreme. In short, a bit of a head-case.... Ooooh, drop this one like a newly-baked hot brick......
ab30 Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Have to agree with the others. This is a very odd situation and one that clearly isn't right. To go to such extremes in a few days should ring huge alarm bells for you. The fact he has a new gf just 3 days later is also very strange! He sounds very messed up and you will be best to walk away from all this now.
Author neveragain2493 Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 He called today, and he asked me why he kept calling. I said, "Why do I keep answering the phone?" He told me he thought about me all the time except for when he was talking to or with his girlfriend. He explained that I was too good for him, so he downgraded to his current girlfriend. He told me he was not used to being attached to someone the way he was to me, and therefore, "he could not handle me". He started talking about how he missed me, and he even accidentally called me 'baby'. Then, he suddenly turned around and told me he probably shouldn't even call me anymore because it was wrong, but that he loved talking to me because I'm so easy to talk to. He does go from extreme to extreme, doesn't he..?
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