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Do you think if an ex broke up with you really poorly (so many of those scenarios out there!) and/or hurt you immensely, that they will get theirs someday and feel real crappy too? And do you secretly (or maybe not so secretly) hope they DO feel the pain?

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NO, because anything negative happening to them after your relationship wouldn't be a direct result of it, so if he/she had a car accident or less gory chip a tooth, twouldn't be because they hurt you. But it would be easy to merge the two incidences for vindication purposes. I don't like to hold grudges, I find that they affect me more than the target, just my two cents.

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No, if you think it applies to just the person who broke up with you,

Yes, if you understand it happens to everyone, you included.

 

But as Patkirk says, don't read anything into events.

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I do think that what goes around comes around, but any bad event that happens to them could be read as that.

 

I agree with the above..

I can't lie, though. I always find myself wishing the worst for the guy who told me he loved me, lied to me, disrespected me, broke up with me over text, and got back with his ex all in the same week.

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I do believe people often reap what they sow...

 

But I also believe that everyone has bad things happening to them which is why one shoud never seek revenge as life itself does things to humble us...as someone said, it may not be as a direct result of what they did to you...but it's just life.

 

Just like if someone broke ur heart and are now hurting, is it because of something u did in your past why? People never stop to look at it that way, wishing badly on their ex but never thinking what if what happened to them with their ex was due to karma?:confused:

 

Anyway....yea. It is normal to want revenge, to want them to hurt etc. But it is best to try to wish them well and not seek out revenge. Let the universe take care of it ;)

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I do think that what goes around comes around, but any bad event that happens to them could be read as that.

 

I agree with the above..

I can't lie, though. I always find myself wishing the worst for the guy who told me he loved me,

 

Then, according to the correct "Law of Karma" that will also bring you what you are sowing.....

Think bad thoughts, you'll have bad consequences....

In fact, I would think you are already experiencing them.

 

Does thinking these things make you happy?

Do these thoughts put you in a buoyant, optimistic happy mood?

Do these thoughts make you feel better?

 

or do you feel despondent?

Unhappy?

Worse?

 

I would guess, the latter.

 

There's your karma, right there.

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well that was more of a general question to get peoples opinions i'm not holding a grudge or wishing, anything, i really try not to think or care about the ex anymore.

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There's an element in all of us that wants to see bad people punished and good people rewarded.

 

Alas, it doesn't seem to be the case.

 

It's also dangerous to live under the delusion that, if a person happens to run into a stretch of bad luck, the "universe" (or whatever) is exacting karmaic revenge and that once that revenge is complete the "universe" will suddenly tip the scales in one's favor.

 

Reality check: The universe cares not one whit whether we live or die, much less if we live our lives in accordance to certain conditions.

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Reality check: The universe cares not one whit whether we live or die, much less if we live our lives in accordance to certain conditions.

 

This, I fear, is true. We all have our share of good and bad luck, of fortune and misfortune, our good and bad spells, our golden years and our years of stone. The universe,stars,religion,morality,karma,redemption etc..have nothing to do with it. It's just the vicissitudes of life, like abrupt,dramatic weather changes.

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I disagree.

Karma has a whole host of stuff to do with it.

It's just that it is better to not speculate, because there are no clear-cut answers...

 

Ultimately, the lesson here, is not whether we believe (for example) that Heaven exists or not....

the trick is to live life AS IF IT DID.

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We all got it coming, in one way or another. LOL

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I believe that generally, if you are a good person, and treat people as such, that good things will come to you. That people will more or less receive the energy they put out, so likewise if you are a bad person who does bad things, you will attract other bad people into your life, and thus, "badness" will surround you.

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I would hope not, I'm not very big on wishing bad luck, because that’s all I see that quote is directed at.

 

You can't force someone to love you, or feel a certain way about you, if you believe in that, then you also believe in fate, and maybe it was fate that you and that person was not meant to be together.

Therefore I don't believe in it and don't recommend no one believing in it.

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I'm starting to fully believe that what goes around comes around.

 

My experience:

Ex dumped me 1 year a go because I caught him a big cheating lie. He was real bastard to me anyways so whether he cheated or not things were pretty much over with.

 

1. He's dating the girl he cheated on me with and she’s absolutely awful. Many friends have told me she hates everything they do together and is always whining that she wants to go home.

 

2. In the year since we broke up, he has moved 4 times because either the apartment flooded or he hated his roommate ..etc etc.

 

3. He broke his leg.

 

4. He's losing his job. Found out his boss is training to do his job so a layoff is imminent. They already cut him to part time.

 

5. There have been many other really bad circumstances since we broke up that really all add up to him being completely miserable.

 

Yay Karma! :bunny::D:bunny::D:bunny:

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I disagree.

Karma has a whole host of stuff to do with it.

It's just that it is better to not speculate, because there are no clear-cut answers...

 

Ultimately, the lesson here, is not whether we believe (for example) that Heaven exists or not....

the trick is to live life AS IF IT DID.

 

Taramaiden, why, oh why, do you not live in NJ? And with me?

 

lol!

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Do you think if an ex broke up with you really poorly (so many of those scenarios out there!) and/or hurt you immensely, that they will get theirs someday and feel real crappy too? And do you secretly (or maybe not so secretly) hope they DO feel the pain?

 

No. I think that if you really were mistreated by somebody then that event stands alone. If the person moves on without you and gets hurt by another person, that event stands alone as well and is not a direct result of them hurting you first. There is also the reality that even though you were hurt by them, they did the right thing by breaking up with you. Perhaps they went about it wrong, hurt you, misled you. These are things they can truly be sorry for, and there is nothing in the world that you won't be forgiven for if you really are sorry and do your best not to repeat your mistakes. We don't always have an explanation of why good and bad things happen to good and bad people. What I do believe, however, is that justice will be served in the end, after death, to those who stand in shame. The only judge is God.

 

As far as your second question, right now, my anger is getting the best of me. I admit to having feelings of causing my ex pain. I know it is wrong and I am just going to let this pass, and I will not act on my emotions. It's not my place to do that, and when these feelings pass I won't hold on to any feelings of hate or revenge. This is temporary and part of the grieving process, as scary as it is...

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Years and years ago someone broke up with me horribly. Bc of him and my grandmother dying at the same time I staryed seeing a therapist. She always told me 'what goes around comes around.' At the time I kept saying 'well, it's not coming around soon enough for me. Another boyfriend and some time later I no longer cared. A year after he screwed me over I found out his house burned down. I felt terrible. He lost everything including his cat. Now, 10 years later he's divorced and in a second unhappy marraige. I feel terrible for him. He caused me a lot of pain but I still wish him a happy life.

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I found out that 7 months after my ex dumped me for someone else, she is in turmoil with her new relationship, she's getting played. I feel good.

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No. I think that if you really were mistreated by somebody then that event stands alone. If the person moves on without you and gets hurt by another person, that event stands alone as well and is not a direct result of them hurting you first.

 

There is also the reality that even though you were hurt by them, they did the right thing by breaking up with you. Perhaps they went about it wrong, hurt you, misled you. These are things they can truly be sorry for, and there is nothing in the world that you won't be forgiven for if you really are sorry and do your best not to repeat your mistakes. We don't always have an explanation of why good and bad things happen to good and bad people.

 

A+++.

 

Everyone should listen to caramel c on these points for sure.

 

Karma IS NOT real. It is as real as ghosts, Santa Claus, and World Peace.

 

It is a fantasy perpetuated by people hoping, through anger and a twisted sense of retribution, that bad things will happen to those who hurt them; schadenfreude. Now, you may wish that someone died in a fiery horrible accident, but that does not mean he will die in said accident, simply b/c he burned you...

 

Karma is in place simply so people can go, "Yep! That's what you get, beeotch!" Which is immature, and spiteful, and evil. Just as evil as the people who put you there in the first place.

 

Spend your time thinking GOOD thoughts. Negativity invades and destroys and pervades.

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Do you think if an ex broke up with you really poorly (so many of those scenarios out there!) and/or hurt you immensely, that they will get theirs someday and feel real crappy too? And do you secretly (or maybe not so secretly) hope they DO feel the pain?

 

I used to.

 

But spending time and energy wishing even bad things on someone who hurt me a lot isn't worth it. I have spent too much on trying to make a friendship work w/ him, but in the end all that effort, I should have put on making me feel better.

 

Just walk away. Whoever he is, don't give him more of yourself - not even your anger, resentment. Just walk away.

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Taramaiden, why, oh why, do you not live in NJ? And with me?

 

lol!

 

Oh sweetheart, bless you!

I've only just seen this (forgot to subscribe)....

 

 

Why, oh why...?

I dunno....

 

karma, I guess..... :laugh:

 

Your lucky break.....

My loss....? ;):o

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