pittman Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Facebook had nothing to do with your gf's behavior. Facebook did not make her into a cheater or a flirt. She already was one. Facebook is just how she got caught. I wouldnt say it had nothing to do with it, but i see your point.
Mermaiden Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Doesn't sound like a big deal to me. I have A LOT of photos up on facebook. And plenty of platonic male friends who call me names like doll, sweetie, etc means nothing.
vanilla87 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Just keep your eyes open and aware for the next few days and see if anything else come up. If you need to go look at his page and see if she is even being honest about what he looks like first off. I know snooping is bad, but if its just to see his picture and 9 times out of 10 even if your not friends with someone, you can still end up seeing their picture. I bet you the guy is just a natural flirt and the only thing you have to worry if this guy is after your girl, not her right now. Till she response in a flirty way, then be a little worried if she lied about his looks. Then again she could be bored and trying to stir up trouble if she is one of those girls that needs drama 24/7, some girls are like that and can't get over the fact that they were surrounded by drama in high school and once they leave that place they miss the drama so they keep creating their own...
Author dreamticket Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 thank you for all your comments - very interesting and a real mixed bunch! some of you said i was being selfish and insecure, others of you felt i had very right to be a bit pissed! for the record i am as sure as i ever can be that she is faithful and has not been cheating. I actually believe her explanation that the guy who posted 'hey sexy' is a bit strange and is the husband of a friend. I didnt dump her on monday - i went to work and calmed down as time went by. Instead what i decided to do was take a step back from the relationship and try to be a little more casual in my mind. We have been together for ten months, spent a beautiful three and half weeks together in the summer and in many ways are very close though we havent moved in together yet or anything and have no definite plans to in the near future. I have got into a mindset that she is definitely the one for me, my future wife etc and maybe what i decided to do on monday was re-evaluate - she may or may not be the one for me! It was because she is so precious to me that the message hurt - who is he to comment on her and call her sexy? I know that sounds selfish and me acting as though i own her but in many ways she is my princess and i dont really like some bloke calling her sexy in a public domain. Maybe im unreasonable! I have always deleted any comments on my facebook wall which i thought might have made my gf feel uncomfortable and i guess i was unhappy she had left it on there. What was noticeable was that the moment i took a step back on monday she rang several times and kind of chased me a little. I also noticed late last night that she has now deleted the post. I think facebook annoys me - i dont use it much but it seems to be so integral to her life. I personally dont feel i need it but i suppose love is recognising she likes it and if i want her to be happy then ive got to accept facebook. Im still with her - i think we are going to go the distance - facebook does make me feel a bit insecure and i need to be strong and just avoid the whole bloody thing and not check her wall! Hard though! thanks for listening and giving your viuws - it helped me a lot to air them through here and to learn that i wasnt completely unreasonable. so goodbye for now...................until the next bastard posts on her wall
Island Girl Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Within the last 6 months my husband has had 2 of his ONSs e-mail him pics on Facebook. One of these girls sent pics to him of her in lingerie! On his profile it clearly lists him as married -- ad the stupid girl who sent the lingerie pics even made the pretense of asking him about his wife. Of course she has no idea that I am the one that goes in and maintains his page - he really doesn't have time for it and wouldn't know about all the crap that goes on through it but his family likes the updates and pics. Anyway - I took the opportunity to e-mail back as if I were my husband and I critiqued her pics. I then went on to say I was surprised she had sent pics like that to a married man and that she seemed like she was still desperate and unhappy. I then wished her well but told her under no uncertain terms that there was no reason to keep in contact. He hasn't heard from her since! Facebook can really be a problem.
Lucky_One Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Am I the only one who thinks it's REALLY weird to date someone for 10 months and to have never met her best GF and her husband before in person - much less heard of them?
Island Girl Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Am I the only one who thinks it's REALLY weird to date someone for 10 months and to have never met her best GF and her husband before in person - much less heard of them? Nope. I think it is weird too. But I have heard weirder.
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