so gutted Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I am getting sick of this. I play by the rules - but noone else complies. He was supposed to call earlier - he didnt - when i didnt pick up his call yesterday he didnt let it go. I had a 20 min conversation with him yesterday, he then had to go and siad he would call at a designated time today. No call, no text until SEVEN HOURS LATER. He said sorry he didnt call, he is with family now, will call tommorow x. So he knows he SHOULD have called....by why leave it so late to text? This was from the guy who wanted to meet without even talking. Even yesterday he was talking about meeting. I think he was with his kids today in which case he should have said - i was with my kids. He must have known he was seeing them. I just texted back and said kool, chat tommrow. How can I let him know - THIS IS NOT ON???
bubblegum Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I am getting sick of this. I play by the rules - but noone else complies. He was supposed to call earlier - he didnt - when i didnt pick up his call yesterday he didnt let it go. I had a 20 min conversation with him yesterday, he then had to go and siad he would call at a designated time today. No call, no text until SEVEN HOURS LATER. He said sorry he didnt call, he is with family now, will call tommorow x. So he knows he SHOULD have called....by why leave it so late to text? This was from the guy who wanted to meet without even talking. Even yesterday he was talking about meeting. I think he was with his kids today in which case he should have said - i was with my kids. He must have known he was seeing them. I just texted back and said kool, chat tommrow. How can I let him know - THIS IS NOT ON??? What do you mean he "didn't let it go" that you didn't pick up on his call?
TaraMaiden Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I just texted back and said kool, chat tommrow. How can I let him know - THIS IS NOT ON??? By not being contrary, as you just were here. Instead of saying - "Kool, chat tomorrow' you should have said I am getting sick of this.
Author so gutted Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 What do you mean he "didn't let it go" that you didn't pick up on his call? He mentioned it a few times - if you had picked up the phone earlier we could have arranged to meet, now I have plans etc and he made a comment about timing... he also said he doesnt sit on the internet all day long - (we met online) - BUT i can see that he got my number from a message - by the read receipt - he then called a lazy 2 and half days later. Communication should not be this hard.
bubblegum Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I agree. Why are you not able to let this guy go, cross him off your list and look to another potential?
Brady_to_Moss Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I agree. Why are you not able to let this guy go, cross him off your list and look to another potential? He forgot to call once..if he does it again then dump him..not after just one time.
Author so gutted Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 I agree. Why are you not able to let this guy go, cross him off your list and look to another potential? let him go - and do what? wait another 11 months before another ok ish) man comes along. I just want to meet him - we have been communication (or not) for a week...am i expecting too much?
Author so gutted Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 He forgot to call once..if he does it again then dump him..not after just one time. im not sure he forgot - as he admitted and said sorry i didnt call (so he knows he should have) i think because i do not know him he has yet to say I WAS WITH MY KIDS....?
Kamille Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 let him go - and do what? wait another 11 months before another ok ish) man comes along. But how do you know this guy is ok-ish? You haven't even met him yet. What is it that makes this guy - who is causing you nothing but anxiety so far - okay compared to the other guys who actually write to you?
dreamergrl Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I don't see why you're getting so worked up over a guy you've never met.
Author so gutted Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 But how do you know this guy is ok-ish? You haven't even met him yet. What is it that makes this guy - who is causing you nothing but anxiety so far - okay compared to the other guys who actually write to you? I guess i want to give him a chance and meet him before i write him off after a week...what he said in his profile and his emails to me seemed to be spot on - he said a few times that he doesnt mistreat women etc etc (maybe this is why he has said sorry i didnt call - he recognizes it is not on..?)he respects them, he seemed like an open book....when we did speak he seemed easy to get along with, and he mentioned meeting - he seemed interested enough...he gave me information on himself etc..he answered my questions...he was willing to meet...i also fancy him - i think.
sugarmomma Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Doesn't sound like he is that interested in you. If he was he would at the very least be a man of his word and call when he says he will. If you accept this behavior it will only get worse. Move on. There are millions of men in the world. He is not the ONE.
truegirl Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Um who cares that he did not call at a specified time... You are being high maintenance. If he wants to go out with you; he will make a considerate effort. Take it for what it is and move on...
bubblegum Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I guess i want to give him a chance and meet him before i write him off after a week...what he said in his profile and his emails to me seemed to be spot on - he said a few times that he doesnt mistreat women etc etc (maybe this is why he has said sorry i didnt call - he recognizes it is not on..?)he respects them, he seemed like an open book....when we did speak he seemed easy to get along with, and he mentioned meeting - he seemed interested enough...he gave me information on himself etc..he answered my questions...he was willing to meet...i also fancy him - i think. Ummm, no, he didn't give you his number, he didn't call you right away... he wasn't really outright about anything.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Basically you're upset over a guy who calls you sparingly, and while the both of you have never met at this point, you're getting worked up because you feel he's disrespecting you? But you're not willing to let this one go because you still want to meet him before you decide to write him off? What's the logic exactly?
CaliGuy Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 I'm still trying to understand what the big deal is. Things happen sometimes. I think you're getting a little uptight. If he does this often to you, that's a problem. If it happens rarely then I think you're being too needy/clingy.
bluewolf17 Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Next! There are two cases here: 1) You are way more into this than him. He's moving slow, and you don't like it. He may be laid back, and you expect more. 2) You are way more into this than him. Bottome line, if a guy wants to see you, and likes you, he will make it happen. He will find a way to get ahold of you and let you know whats going one. Your right, it shouldn't be hard. And if it is, there is something wrong. And don't worry when/if the next guy will come along. He will. Don't chase this guy.
Author so gutted Posted September 7, 2009 Author Posted September 7, 2009 Next! There are two cases here: 1) You are way more into this than him. He's moving slow, and you don't like it. He may be laid back, and you expect more. 2) You are way more into this than him. Bottome line, if a guy wants to see you, and likes you, he will make it happen. He will find a way to get ahold of you and let you know whats going one. Your right, it shouldn't be hard. And if it is, there is something wrong. And don't worry when/if the next guy will come along. He will. Don't chase this guy. I am just fed up of being treated like this after his endless paragraphs of treating women well etc..i havnt seen any of it. He hasnt called today either - if he makes a half hearted attempt after school hours he can fk of. Part of me wants a bloody explanation......how can i put this to him - IF he does call?
2sunny Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 if his style doesn't work for you - either tell him or get rid of him. if you tell him - he may not want to adjust. then you have another situation to make a decision about. what do you want to do?
Trialbyfire Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 I am just fed up of being treated like this after his endless paragraphs of treating women well etc..i havnt seen any of it. He hasnt called today either - if he makes a half hearted attempt after school hours he can fk of. Part of me wants a bloody explanation......how can i put this to him - IF he does call? It sounds like he's showing you his real self v. his endless patter. It also sounds like you're putting up with his bad behaviour(s) so why should he belly up to the bar? Forget getting an explanation. Just write this one off.
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