GooseChaser Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Hey! I'm a little conflicted about this, and I'd appreciate any advice. I'm on a leave of absence from a university across the country, and it's likely that in a year I'll be returning. I took the leave for many reasons; to make it simple, I was unprepared. A few weeks before I left for the college, someone very close to me got to me emotionally, which seriously affected me trying to get used to the university. I couldn't handle all of the changes and basically crashed and burned. Though it was easy to place blame on him for what happened, I realize it was up to me to do well starting there, and the fact is, I didn't. Right now I'm sorta sick of trying and the vulnerable place it puts me in, and I'm thinking about just taking a break from dating while I'm at my community college. My motivation's way down. Like, if I know I'm leaving, why not just wait? Where's the hurry? I'd like to make moving back to the university as easy on myself as possible so I get a good start this time. Having a year left here, though, maybe it'd be worth it to put myself out there and give it a chance. I asked my mom for advice, and she believes so, saying I'm young. I'd have to be sure that's what I wanted to do, since I don't want to be half-hearted about it, lead guys on, and hurt them that way. I want to be confident in my actions, whichever way I go. What do you guys think? Go for it and keep dating, knowing I'm probably going across the country in a year for school, and see where things go, or would it help me to just relax and take a break from it if I'm ambivalent?
carhill Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Since you're young, and, for most young people, life is perpetually in flux, I'd say enjoy each day and each opportunity and what happens in a year happens. Be honest with those you meet and perhaps you'll meet someone that supports and shares the joys and apprehensions you have for the future to come. Part of growth is learning from the past and applying to the future. It sounds like you've learned something. Now, apply it
EsmerKiss7 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I think you should just have fun and go with the flow Goosechaser.. I mean if your planning to go back to college you should stay focused on completing your goals and not let anyone get in the way of that - It's your life, you know? But thats not to say keep your distance from people. Have fun and meet people, just don't forget your goals. It's possible to have good experiences with people and enjoying what you have/had and moving along, plus you can always keep in touch and stay friends.
Author GooseChaser Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 Wow, that's a really good way of looking at it... maybe I've been over-worrying. Thank you for your perspectives! It helps! I'll keep them all in mind. It's like a weight off. There's definitely a sting from the past rejections. I guess what I've got to do is put it behind me and really move forward. I can do that! I'll try to make the most of the time I have here and enjoy it. This school year that's just started has been going great so far! I'm staying busy and meeting people all the time; I'm really happy about it. Honesty-- always.
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