iHeartm0ney Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Been with my ex for 4.5 years...and i guess after the honeymoon stage its been rough up hill battle for about 1.5 years.. Constant arguing. ... She doesnt like the fact that i'm a noticeable person. . . I dont demand attention but I do get it. I am her first...well was her first everything but when I decided to change my ways I was informed that i "had my chance and it was too late" She loves me but feels this isnt the right time to try and work things out ... This is due do the fact that she has caught feelings for another guy.. "The friend" that was always there for her to cry on his shoulder and talk n complain about me... I really made an effort to be serious with her im only 22 and she is 20.. but i feel she is everything i want becuz she is so different from other girls that im exposed to... basically long story short i was ready to conform to the females rule the world theory and not fight the control that she wanted to have .. but now shes saying she cant be with me and she wont be with me becuz she has feelings for another guy and they had sex (Mind u i was her first)... I feel horrible... like shes going to start another world with this dude... what am i suppose 2 do... we havent been going out for about 5 months but mess around off and on basically doing everything as if we were a couple....but she tells me she loves me and wants to be with me but has feelings for this guy .. and i feel like shes putting me on the same level as this guy that she likes and me the guy that shes "in love with"....am i suppose 2 just let her go.. do i fight for her ... i know in the back of my mind we cant be together right now becuz he will be on her mind.. but if she loved me she wouldnt want to be with anyone else right? she wouldnt want to pursue another guy in fear of me leaving her? is this her wanting to see what else is out there becuz all she knows is me ? will she come back? do i move on as well ?... this is my first real relationship and i dont want to go thru this again with anyone else.. im lost .. =/ i think i stopped making sense a long time ago but im so confused that girl means everything to me shes really my heart but why is she doing this =/
soheartbroken Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Hey. There's a lot of thoughts going on here, kinda hard to follow your post. But this sticks out to me: If she loved me she wouldnt want to be with anyone else right? she wouldnt want to pursue another guy in fear of me leaving her? You are correct. If she really loved you she wouldn't be pursuing someone else. She's cheating on you, no? You need to distance yourself from the situation. If this means No Contact then so be it. She needs to make up her mind! She can't have it both ways. She is hurting you. I'm really sorry for what you're going through. 4.5 years is a long time.
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