Heartbroken09 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Day 10 no contact Feeling really crummy. When he split with me, sadly i think he took pitty on me said we would still be civil to each other etc just let him sort his head out and he will drop me a line...10 days on i havent heard anything. Do you think this is too soon? A friend of his has told me that he has moved now and doesnt wish to tell me where/get in contact with me again beause of this i do not want to give in and text/call him first. I hate myself for thinking i want it to end civil but i do/there are plenty of reasons why it ended him not being able to stay just mine being a big problem! but i dont think im searching for answers, just want my best mate back Or even for him just to tell me honestly he cant carry on speaking with me as mates etc, it wouldnt hurt as much as the not knowing where i stand i dont think. Wishing and still hoping he misses me...confussed feelings! Nearly 2 weeks nc lets hope after that day it starts getting a tiny bit easier than now! sorry just had to get it all off my chest
Thaddeus Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 You already know where you stand. You don't want "closure" (there isn't any such thing anyway). You just want the last word. Move forward. Stop looking over your shoulder at some idealized past that didn't exist anyway. If he was a cheater (that's what I get from what you've written) you're better off without him anyway.
Author Heartbroken09 Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 Thank you for your opinion but.. I feel i dont know where i stand as at the moment im waiting for him to get back in contact and tell me. I do belive there is such thing as i dont just want the last word but i want him to tell me, rather than being slightly coward and not bothering. Too true with me idalizing a cheat admittedly, wrong on my part and i know im better off without him in the long run as i do not want him back relationship wise. I guess 10 days nc is not enough for me to get over love, heres to the future. x
TaraMaiden Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 It's been said time and time again. You can never gain closure from a cheater, because you can never rely on them telling you the truth. In fact, they will do all they can to avoid it. he feels distinctly relieved he no longer has to lie and justify. Whatever closure you seek, the only place you'll find it is within your own heart and head. You'll never get it from theirs. Hell will freeze over first....... Keep up with the NC.... It does get better.... if you work with it.... Be strong.....
angelface78 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I wanted the same thing...closure...and almost broke NC after 2 months. My friends stopped me! My friend said you wont get closure from him. You make your own closure because in the end...nothing he says will take the pain away! You just gotta move on...its hard believe me...but its the only way!
gd26 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 I agree. What exactly are you seeking.... a chance to win him back? If you want closure, you will never find it through him. In fact, when I was in your situation, I actually preferred leaving things the way you have. It hurts to be rejected, and I would never want to give that person one more chance to reject and hurt me. The only thing you'll get by trying to get 'closure' from him is another opportunity for him to give some excuse of why you two aren't a good match for one another and then some patronizing words from his side of how you'll hopefully meet someone much better for you. Ouch. If he's already made it clear he doesn't want to continue things, I'd rather not hear all those patronizing words and just move on.
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