Bleed Internal Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I found out she cheated. Broke it off immediately. Had sporadic, depressing conversations but went NC for the most part. For some reason, I wound up confessing about cheating on her in the past too. She was obviously upset to some degree but honestly, took it pretty well. Now we still have sex regularly, occasionally spend time together, and sometimes there are even emotional exchanges. I'm okay with this but I really don't want her to think this means that we're back together and I don't want to fall back into the trap of a relationship. Sex is amazing though and I do a good job of separating what she is to me now from the girl I used to love who broke my heart. Things are fine but I'm still confused by the situation. Any words of advice?
MeadowGlitter Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I'm okay with this but I really don't want her to think this means that we're back together and I don't want to fall back into the trap of a relationship. Sex is amazing though and I do a good job of separating what she is to me now from the girl I used to love who broke my heart. Things are fine but I'm still confused by the situation. Any words of advice? Make sure she knows you don't want to get back into a relationship. Some girls find it difficult to separate love and sex.
smookie Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Here a crazy thought.... Find someone else to have sex with .... UHM maybe then you would not have to worry about her thinking that you are together . I find it selfish to some degree that your still turning to her for your sexual needs however you worry that she may want more. Of course she would want it to be more .... Leave her alone and find someone else to get it on with. If thats all you want is sex and not a relationship.. Think of it this way... What will happen when you do meet someone else and you have to completly break off the contact with her. I do not think that she will except that you are with someone else and that suddenly you can only be friends....
TaraMaiden Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 You're not confused at all. You know exactly what you want. A FWB. if she wants the same thing, well, good on ya.... have you asked her? Does she know that's all you want? or are you just blythely having sex with her, but knowing that it's leading her up a blind alley.... but you're enjoying your fun too much to stop it? Be honest, now... you can't be freinds.... this has to all stop, pronto, finito, period.
carhill Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Interesting that a cheater had such a marked response to their partner cheating. Textbook projection. My best advice is to refrain from intimate relationships until further maturing has occurred. The people you damage are real human beings, just like you. Think about it. You cheated on her and are using her guilt over her own mistake to make her into a f*ck-buddy since the 'sex is amazing'. Nice.
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