Blue6Eyes Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I'm going to try to condense this. We started dating last march. We had been acquaintances for the past ten years through a mutual friend. We started dating long distance from the start. Things were going well. He even told me he thought what we had would last a long time. I found out I got a job back home, and would be moving back, which is where he lives. He had been acting distant on and off, so I asked him what was going on. He said we should take a break. I came over, and we cried and hugged for over an hour. We didn't see each other for like a month. I admit I broke down a few times and called, but nothing too dramatic. Then, I returned some movies to him one day when I thought he would be at work. He wasn't. He was there. We talked briefly. He said he would call me and we could get together for his birthday dinner, which we had mentioned before. Weeks later, he sends me a text telling me that he hasn't been ignoring me. That he fell into a "low". I told him that if he needed anyone to talk to I'd be there. Fast forward to March of this year. I get a happy st patricks day text. Then, I get a text saying he came by the store. So, we start to become friendly a bit over the next few weeks. So, I made the catastrophic mistake of mentioning that I really would like to continue to be friends. He callls and tells me that he is not in the same boat and that we should both move on and focus on other things. I simply told him that I had moved on, and was foucsing on other things. He was the one that reached out to me. He said he was sorry. So, fast forward to now. We are getting a tiny bit friendly again. I guess I'm not sure what to do. I do have feelings for him still. He was good to me overall, and we had a good relationship for a little over four months. I know his parents divorced at a young age. His mom, who raised him and his sibling, passed away about ten years ago. I guess I just want to know if anyone has any input on how to approach this, especially if they have been in this kind of situation? I think he may be largely afraid of commitment.
Author Blue6Eyes Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 Additional comment: We are both in our thirties. We got close very quickly. I even had a key to his place. He introduced me to his sister and family. He even flew me down to california twice. Things that some casual fling just would not do.
mickleb Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I think you're probably right about commitment, so I would say not to expect anything from him. Continue to live your life, don't focus on this guy. Date other people. If something happens later on down the road, you can consider it but there doesn't sound like much to hold onto here, really. Take care. x
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