Things to think about before giving second chance

[maria_patheticsoul]

After a month of putting clossure to my relationship with my ex live in partner he finally managed to contact me again he went to my place since he doesn't have any way to contact me.

I was confused but because i know i have good manners in my blood i let him inside the house and entertain him as a guest.We ended up talking about the things that happened to our relationship. To my knowledge and analization it was his job here in my country that makes him like a dog who doesn't know where to sit and it affected our relationship greatly.He started saying that if i ask him to move at my place he will move in right away but i did not respond to that but just with a smile.I was not surprised with what i felt...i looked at him and i dont feel anything..i felt uncomfy with him around that moment.I simply told him that he needed all the space for improving his status here in my country since it was what bothered him.We are not in the same page anymore.I wanted a simple life and i dont aim high but he is too ambitious.I dont feel anything for him anymore he wanted a second chance..give it a try and live together again.I told him only time can tell if we are brave enough to try it again.

I think there are plenty of reasons why i got over him so soon.I am always reminded by the verbal assaults he did to me.The pain he always inflicts on me for no reason at all.He can not bear waking up early to wake me up so that i can help my daughter go to school...very lame in my point of view.

So for me the first thing that we should think about before giving another chance to a relationship is to think hard if he/she really loves you...in a deeper sense.If he can not fill your glass if it's half empty then he is not worth it.If he/she can not be patient..if he/she don't respect you at all.If he/she always have conditions and wants everything done according to his/her ways.Forget about if you two clicks in bed.

In my case it was easy to know..i realized that he really did not love me coz if you really love somebody you will not dare hurt his/her feelings.

So for me when asked about second chance i already know what i want...i dont want him back simply because it always comes back to my mind all what he did and it makes it more easier to decide.

I don't need NC i can be his friend ..i can look him in his eyes and feel nothing so it doesn't bother me anymore.

As filipinas are we love deeply and willing to do anything to keep a relationship.I know i have lots of love to give and i don't easily give up unless there is no reason to pursue.There is nothing i can not understand when i am in a relationship coz i always find a reason as to why he did such things rather than get mad or angry in a wink of an eye.Letting go of the relationship is a big help..now i know where i am heading.