V.Vixen Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 have any of you tried this, and is it worth the $35 fee to sign up?
AlektraClementine Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Never did it. But it always looked like a really fun social experiment.
Lizzie60 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 have any of you tried this, and is it worth the $35 fee to sign up? Nope.. I tried it once.. a few years ago... what a waste of time, money and energy...
eiithan Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Been four times. On my 4th speeddate, I ran into 6 men I have previously met from the first three (12 men present at the speeddate). Which provided me a chance to ask how things went for them. Because the given conversation time is so short, it seems it's usually the physical attraction that determines another go or not. One of the girls I met confessed that in the end it's all about looks, and one good looking guy I spoke to told me that he went out with three dates he picked, but it went nowhere because of their different personalities, etc. I personally did not do well. I chose to ask core questions such as political orientation, and serious questions were not well received by most young men unfortunately (at one time I went with a friend and one of the guys told my friend I am too uptight; he was a surfer finance guy, go figure). As far as I recall the only man who did not mind political conversation happened to be an attractive 35 year old legal adviser, but due to our big age gap (10 years) I did not pursue him. You do get quite a range of different men at speeddates and some are total downers, some are surprisingly attractive...it may suit you, it may not. Good luck.
deux ex machina Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I am very shy until I know someone. It would be interesting to go to one just to say you did, though. How long do you talk to each person? How does it work?
eiithan Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 How long do you talk to each person? How does it work? Ladies are usually seated at the table and gentlemen move along after about 7 minutes of conversation. Each person is given a scorecard that has "wanna see again" "never!" sort of rating system, and by the end of the speeddate you submit your scorecard to the host with your contact info. Later the host accesses the scorecards and if there is a match, she/he will contact you with the other person's contact info. At least that's what I did. I was also told by some men that even if there was a match, it is common to experience no response in email.
monkey00 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I tried it a couple of times and it was a waste of time and money. Though I can say I've done it and had the experience but I don't think I'd do it again. It is about physical attraction. According to studies you'll know whether or not you like someone within the first few seconds of seeing them.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 You'll be competing with the other girls for the guy's attention. Speed dating's main attraction is that yes, you will meet men, but overall they will rate you on attractiveness rather than personality. Going around tables every 7 mins or so won't guarantee that you will eventually leave there with a date, rather you'll end up getting scrutinized because of your looks. It's basically like being in a pageant and trying to get judges to vote for you.
TaraMaiden Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Speed dating is to love what vibrators are to sex. Fun, brief, and not as good as the real thing.
OpenGL Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 You're better off just going to a club. Here is what happens with speed dating. Every single girl there picks the top 1-2 guys, based off looks. The 1-2 guys there have their pick from all of the women who showed up while the rest of the guys go home with their cock in their hand. The 1-2 go out with all the girls, and in the end only makes second dates with the girls the put out or the best looking girls. Actually so let me rephrase that. If you are looking for a quick fck, go for it. But you can get the same results at a club.
deux ex machina Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 TaraMaiden made me giggle. Ladies are usually seated at the table and gentlemen move along after about 7 minutes of conversation. Each person is given a scorecard that has "wanna see again" "never!" sort of rating system, and by the end of the speeddate you submit your scorecard to the host with your contact info. Later the host accesses the scorecards and if there is a match, she/he will contact you with the other person's contact info. At least that's what I did. I was also told by some men that even if there was a match, it is common to experience no response in email. Thanks for the details as to how it goes. Sounds a bit overwhelming. Having a tendency toward introversion, I'm just not sure. Never tried online dating - I thought this sounded like a step above. I'm not into the bar thing. If I wanted to get f-c-k-e-d, I could get f-c-k-e-d... Yikes! It's a jungle out there, lol
deux ex machina Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 ...guess what I've just been invited to? Yep. Weird.
TaraMaiden Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 tell us if the earth really moves for you.... ...Or whether you just get a buzz out of it.
deux ex machina Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Well, I'm still healing my little self, so I'm a bit dangerous for anyone to get to know right now -- but IF I ever try it, I will so let you know. Until then, I'll just keep sticking a fork in the toaster, get my kicks that way. Safer for everyone. Haha, thanks
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