lonelyguy001 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Here's the story: College started on august 30th, and I know it's only the 5th, but there was a girl in one of my classes who I just had to ask out. We traded glances throughout the class, and I could tell she was into me because even when I looked straight into her eyes for 3-4 seconds, she just wouldn't turn away. Both times I planned on talking to her, some other guy started talking or I chickened out. I sent her a facebook request to add her as a friend and she accepted it, and then I sent her a message asking if she would like to go out sometime. She never responded to my facebook message, but the next day it was apparent she got it because when I spoke to her, she brought it up and we were heading to lunch together, when she realized she had to take the bus home and would miss it. I waited with and took the bus with her, and then waited by the train with her for another 40 minutes, so I was with her about an hour and a half or so. It was all congenial and we had a good time together, although she seemed a little nervous and was playing with her phone a lot. Anyway, I got her phone number and called her later that night to make sure she got home okay since it was the first time she had ever taken the train home, but it was a short conversation of about 20-30 seconds, so it wasn't really a real talk of any kind. I'm just wondering if I should wait till next thursday to talk to her in person, or call her between then and now.. or basically what the hell I should do at this point.
Author lonelyguy001 Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 I understand it's a long question, but could I at least get an opinion on whether I did the right thing by calling her a few hours after she got off the train? I just wanted to make sure she got home safe, but I hope I didn't come off as needy or something.
bluewolf17 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I think it was sweet that you called her to make sure she was safe. And if she likes you, she will think it's sweet too. If you don't know how she feels, you could always call in a day or two and ask her out. Then you will have your answer (if she says yes). Take a chance!
xpaperxcutx Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I think you're thinking too much about the rules of dating. There are no rules, at least there are no specifics. Do what you feel like doing when you feel like doing. If you want to ask her out then do so. No it would not make you desperate because you haven't bombarded her message machine with 20 calls about how you've missed her etc. Don't be a chicken. You're in college, live a little.
bluewolf17 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I think you're thinking too much about the rules of dating. There are no rules, at least there are no specifics. Do what you feel like doing when you feel like doing. If you want to ask her out then do so. No it would not make you desperate because you haven't bombarded her message machine with 20 calls about how you've missed her etc. Don't be a chicken. You're in college, live a little. exactly. Whats the worst that could happen? She says no then something shiny catches your eye and you forget.
kizik Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Sounds like a pretty sweet deal, she obviously likes you. SO, collect yourself, because you sound nervous about this one, and when you have class with her Thursday, make sure to talk to her during before or after class and see if she wants to go eat a bunch of caramels. But whatever you do, don't let women know you like them, or else they will think you are "creepy".
bluewolf17 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Sounds like a pretty sweet deal, she obviously likes you. SO, collect yourself, because you sound nervous about this one, and when you have class with her Thursday, make sure to talk to her during before or after class and see if she wants to go eat a bunch of caramels. But whatever you do, don't let women know you like them, or else they will think you are "creepy". Nice Good Will Hunting ref... But your creepy concept is just silly.
Lish Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Like I said before, ask her to her FACE....not her FACEBOOK (oh, I'm hilarious, I know. ). Texting/social networking to ask a girl out shows her you aint got the balls to ask her out in person. Just go for it =]
bluewolf17 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Like I said before, ask her to her FACE....not her FACEBOOK (oh, I'm hilarious, I know. ). Texting/social networking to ask a girl out shows her you aint got the balls to ask her out in person. Just go for it =] No myspace, no text, no Facebook. Over the phone is fine, in person is better.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Like I said before, ask her to her FACE....not her FACEBOOK (oh, I'm hilarious, I know. ). Texting/social networking to ask a girl out shows her you aint got the balls to ask her out in person. Just go for it =] Completely agree!
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Just ask her out to her face. Uh, yes. The bus thing was a little weird. And the follow-up call. TBH, I would have been a *little* bit creeped out by that. But that doesn't mean EVERY girl would be. Just ask her out in person next time you see her.
redhighheels Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I'll go against the consensus here and say she doesn't really seem all that into you. Here's why..She didn't reply to your facebook message (not the best idea to contact her anyway, but given your age, I guess it's acceptable), you were heading out to lunch and she decided to take the bus..seems like she was trying to lose you, but you stuck around her for an hour and a half?! What you perceived as nervousness could have been simply irritability, and she was blowing you off by playing with her phone. Your calling afterwards is more on the creepy side than on the sweet one..and the last conversation was just a brief exchange of information, which again isn't a good sign. With that in mind, you could ask her out one more time, preferably face to face..but be prepared. And in the future, don't sh*t where you eat..otherwise, your classes will become very unpleasant very fast.
Author lonelyguy001 Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 I'll go against the consensus here and say she doesn't really seem all that into you. Here's why..She didn't reply to your facebook message (not the best idea to contact her anyway, but given your age, I guess it's acceptable), you were heading out to lunch and she decided to take the bus..seems like she was trying to lose you, but you stuck around her for an hour and a half?! What you perceived as nervousness could have been simply irritability, and she was blowing you off by playing with her phone. Your calling afterwards is more on the creepy side than on the sweet one..and the last conversation was just a brief exchange of information, which again isn't a good sign. With that in mind, you could ask her out one more time, preferably face to face..but be prepared. And in the future, don't sh*t where you eat..otherwise, your classes will become very unpleasant very fast. You are making judgments much too quickly. I didn't feel like explaining EVERY single detail of what happened, but if it matters, SHE asked ME when I greeted her if I wanted to go to starbucks, I didn't ask her. And we were already waiting for the bus when I brought up the fact that we wouldn't have time to go there, so we just walked around and talked for a while. And, by the way, she THANKED me for waiting with her at the train. Your analysis of the situation is way off. All my question was asking was whether dating etiquette would allow me to call or if I should wait to see her. There is no question that we like each other, and I didn't even ask anyone to state whether they thought she was into me. She would not have given me her cell phone number in the first hour of EVER meeting each other if she didn't feel comfortable with me. Also, the conversation was only brief because I ended it since I was rushing for a cab, not because she hung up or said goodbye.
redhighheels Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 You are making judgments much too quickly. I didn't feel like explaining EVERY single detail of what happened, but if it matters, SHE asked ME when I greeted her if I wanted to go to starbucks, I didn't ask her. And we were already waiting for the bus when I brought up the fact that we wouldn't have time to go there, so we just walked around and talked for a while. And, by the way, she THANKED me for waiting with her at the train. Your analysis of the situation is way off. All my question was asking was whether dating etiquette would allow me to call or if I should wait to see her. There is no question that we like each other, and I didn't even ask anyone to state whether they thought she was into me. She would not have given me her cell phone number in the first hour of EVER meeting each other if she didn't feel comfortable with me. Also, the conversation was only brief because I ended it since I was rushing for a cab, not because she hung up or said goodbye. Until you're in an exclusive relationship, there's always a question whether you like each other or not. And women do give out their numbers in the first hour or even less, even if they don't have any intentions of following through..just run a search on LS, you might be surprised. My opinion was based on the information you provided, but hey, it's a public forum so feel free to disregard any posts that don't validate your opinion. Good luck to you!
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