Lucky555 Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 A guy and I had the talk. we both agreed to let things develop naturally and to be honest with each other. So it seems like he and I have come to a mutual understanding. Now I asked him to let me know when he wants to do something together. No pressure so to speak because we both work and I know sometimes he works weekends. However, he just said ok. Its been two days since I have spoke with him last and he didn't say anything about going out any time. Is this odd or should i wait a bit. I'm continuing doing what i do and I already told him what I want and need out of a relationship. He agreed and it was very nice that we both were on the same page. Am i being impatient or should something be set up by a certain time? I would think he would be like saying we should get together what should we do after having our talk.....I dont know though. Advise?
letinmotion Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Remember this... Nothing that is easily obtained has value. Be flirtatious and stay in touch every once in awhile. You may also suggest something in the near future but don't ask him directly. He will ask and if he doesn't then hes not worth your time because: 1. He may not be interested. 2. He doesnt have the balls to ask you out.
Author Lucky555 Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 letinmotion, either of these could be true. I will just keep "busy" and not waste my time thinking about it. I like having the relationship progress but he already knows he needs to make a move. I know hes interested but i guess I will see how interested he is. He gets five days to ask me out. I think this is a good time line. After this I won't let him have the time of day. I think it is odd not to set a date after having our discussion.
Thaddeus Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 He gets five days to ask me out.With that in mind... A guy and I had the talk. we both agreed to let things develop naturally and to be honest with each other.Will you be honest with him and actually let him know about your self-imposed deadline, or is he somehow just supposed to read your mind?
Author Lucky555 Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 With that in mind... Will you be honest with him and actually let him know about your self-imposed deadline, or is he somehow just supposed to read your mind? he already knows if there isn't any effort its not going to work out. This would definitely classify as effort. He knows this. We had a very honest discussion and have known he each other for awhile. its not like we are strangers. This is why I'm puzzled why he didn't respond with saying lets get together on a certain date or time. There could be many factors for him not setting up a date with me, like not knowing when he has to work. BUT, i know any guy that wants to see me makes time. He has been pursuing me for a few months and i was ready to completely give up because he couldn't straight out ask me out, e he didn't know if i like him. Now he knows, now he has to step it up. I am giving him and I a second chance. I have to admit i was really happy with our discussion but he needs to follow through. Relationships don't sustain with out actual "person to person" contact.
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