princesskat Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 so i have now been on two amazing dates with this great guy, we get on like a house on fire, Text every day and really like each others company... however this all couldn't have come at a worse time as I am now going travelling for 2 months and won't see him... how do I make sure I don't lose him and we don't lose that spark we had on those dates? I worry he will move on and forget about me...
dreamergrl Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 What has he said about you having to travel?
Author princesskat Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 He also says that the travelling comes at a bad time but says that he knows I will have an awesome trip and that neither of us can predict what will happen in the future. Also that all he can promise me is that he will always be honest by telling me the truth and not messing me around... I cant ask for anything more.... but for the first time in 2 years I actually like someone... have butterflies in my tummy.... I am a strong believer of if something is to happen it will happen but how do I act now? do I keep in touch or let him dictate?
dreamergrl Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 I'll be honest, in my opinion, I think it's too soon to expect him to wait for you for a few months, after only two dates.
Author princesskat Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 you are so right!! i think i got ahead of myself a bit. Thank you for your honesty!
AlektraClementine Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Depends on the couple. In our very first month of dating, my fiance went on a work trip to Australia and Indonesia and was gone for a month and 1/2. We were really into each other and so we emailed and IM'd every day, every chance we could. He got a skype account as well so that we could talk whenever possible.
loveslife Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 I think things like this happen for a reason. Maybe it'll be good to get to know each other intellectually/emotionally by phone, email, text or whatever without the physical stuff. It could be interesting.
AlektraClementine Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 I think things like this happen for a reason. Maybe it'll be good to get to know each other intellectually/emotionally by phone, email, text or whatever without the physical stuff. It could be interesting. GREAT point.
Author princesskat Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 Before we went out on these dates, we texted back and forth for 3 weeks... (we have known each other for a year - but i lived in another country so lost touch and we have lots of mutual friends) and just meeting up was so electric. We kissed but nothing more. There is a lot of electricity between us. Seeing him after 2 months will be crazy. I just don't want this high to end. I plan on having a lot of fun on my trip but worry him being a guy, he may be just courting and I am reading into things too much.
dreamergrl Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 I think things like this happen for a reason. Maybe it'll be good to get to know each other intellectually/emotionally by phone, email, text or whatever without the physical stuff. It could be interesting. Depends on the couple. In our very first month of dating, my fiance went on a work trip to Australia and Indonesia and was gone for a month and 1/2. We were really into each other and so we emailed and IM'd every day, every chance we could. He got a skype account as well so that we could talk whenever possible. Both excellent posts! I do think though, that it's important not to have high expectations with this though. I'd hate for OP to get her heart crushed if he loses interest over the two months.
Author princesskat Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 he went to a wedding last night(and his ex was there). He texted me saying that he cant stop thinking about me and misses me!! I didnt reply, then this morning he wrote that he apologises and that his message didnt come out well and that he fell out with his ex. What is going on?!
loveslife Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Sounds like maybe he feels like the message was too much since you didn't reply and he's trying to cover. Or maybe he has a row with his ex and was trying to prove to himself that, well, at least I still have princesskat and I really like her. Why don't you text back and say something like, why are you apologizing, I thought it was a great message last night.
Lizzie60 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 you are so right!! i think i got ahead of myself a bit. Thank you for your honesty! I agree that it could be too soon.. but that can work in your favour.. cause he's still under the 'house fire' feeling.. he wants more.. But then again.. maybe after a couple of weeks.. he'll forget about the 'fire'... who knows.. Just enjoy your trip... if he's still around.. he will. if not.. just move on.. nothing you can do.. keep in touch.. you shall see..
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