LisaUk Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Ok, so just thought I would ask... Is anyone else dying here without sex? It's yet another thing to be p*****d about right? ARRRGGHHHHHHHHHHHH Sorry, I had to get that out, do I stand alone here?
tojaz Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Not at all, 6 months without as much as a meaningful handshake! TOJAZ
grogster Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 A year, and counting. I'm very fit, though. And well read.
Author LisaUk Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 Not at all, 6 months without as much as a meaningful handshake! TOJAZ Some how I don't believe you Tojaz! LOL
phineas Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 I was getting it from the wife regularly until I found out she was still cheating. That was about 2 to 3 months ago. I got some last week last & the week before but while it was fun, it isn't what i'm looking for I realize. Believe it or not i'd rather spend some time with a woman working towards something slowly than have a bang buddy. I got a woman in mind that is interested but she's coming on strong & done everything but directly ask me out & i'm not sure how to handle it. LOL! I probably blew it by not asking her out but we will see. She is divorced due to her husbands infidelity so maybe she would understand me wanting to take thing slow.
Author LisaUk Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 I was getting it from the wife regularly until I found out she was still cheating. That was about 2 to 3 months ago. I got some last week last & the week before but while it was fun, it isn't what i'm looking for I realize. Believe it or not i'd rather spend some time with a woman working towards something slowly than have a bang buddy. I got a woman in mind that is interested but she's coming on strong & done everything but directly ask me out & i'm not sure how to handle it. LOL! I probably blew it by not asking her out but we will see. She is divorced due to her husbands infidelity so maybe she would understand me wanting to take thing slow. I replied to your PM Phin! No I don't want a bang buddy either, that's just not who I am. I just miss it though.
phineas Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 I replied to your PM Phin! No I don't want a bang buddy either, that's just not who I am. I just miss it though. Don't get me wrong, i miss it. I think i'm getting carpel tunnel & tennis elbow over here.
Author LisaUk Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 Don't get me wrong, i miss it. I think i'm getting carpel tunnel & tennis elbow over here. Way too much information Phin! Way too much! LOL J/K.
2.50 a gallon Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Lisa I know feel that you are not that kind of girl, maybe it is time to leave the nice girl at home and have a ONS or two. You are no longer a girl, you are a woman, with womanly desires. Remember the nice girl is alone and suffering from the screaming purple hornies. You can choose carefully. Nobody needs to know. You are free bird, you can choose whom ever you want. In fact why not send the nice girl on a vacation, and while she is gone and have tryouts. In a hundred years whose going to know much less care. Find one who can give you the big O from across the room in room full of people. Lisa, I am sincere in this suggestion, it has been over six months, and you are still having triggers and flashbacks, maybe it is time to try a different approach Your friend Gallon
Author LisaUk Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 Lisa I know feel that you are not that kind of girl, maybe it is time to leave the nice girl at home and have a ONS or two. You are no longer a girl, you are a woman, with womanly desires. Remember the nice girl is alone and suffering from the screaming purple hornies. You can choose carefully. Nobody needs to know. You are free bird, you can choose whom ever you want. In fact why not send the nice girl on a vacation, and while she is gone and have tryouts. In a hundred years whose going to know much less care. Find one who can give you the big O from across the room in room full of people. Lisa, I am sincere in this suggestion, it has been over six months, and you are still having triggers and flashbacks, maybe it is time to try a different approach Your friend Gallon Hi Gallon It's not about being a good girl. For me sex is something that is only enjoyable to me, personally, when it involves a deep emotional connection. I am hardly likely to have a deep emotional connection on a ONS am I? I would hate and disrespect myself by doing that. That's what I menat when I said, it's not me. I would not be being true to my nature nor my values (as a side point).
Auroracoladybug Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Lisa so there with you...a ONS might give some pleasure at the time but I made that mistake of letting things go too far and blah blah blah...I don't want to live with the whole idea that I didn't respect myself enough to wait. I definitely don't want to even date until the divorce is final...hell I still don't want the divorce.
PWSX3 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 I went 6 months without but half of that I really didn't want to have sex, (I can't believe I just said that:eek:) but it just wasn't priority for me at the time. Then I met my G/F and we told each other we wanted to wait. Like you Lisa I just couldn't jump into bed with someone, It's just not me to have a one night stand. Me & the G/F dated for two months before we finally had sex, but we both felt it was the right time. Only suggestion I have is lots of cold showers!!!!:laugh::laugh: Or does that work for the ladies????
ryepatch Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 i don't miss sex as much as physical contact. i know this stuff is harder in most ways if you have kids, but i was over at my friend's house last night (his wife also left him with the house and all the responsibilities, after she chatted with my wife), and he was cuddling on the couch with one daughter in either arm. my family and close friends are all far away, people i know here are mostly new friends, not very touch-oriented. i could really use a hug. i just miss sitting somewhere with my arm around someone. i've always had trouble sleeping, but putting my arm over my wife in bed always helped me chase away bad thoughts. i would think, at least i have this. we would hug and kiss at least a dozen times a day, right up until the day before she left. every time we went for a walk and one of us looked up and saw the moon, we would kiss. that's what makes this so crazy, how affectionate she was right up until she left. of course i miss the sex. . . and we did things that i don't know if anybody else would want to do. it was unique. it took nine and a half years to understand each other sexually. i don't want to start over with someone else.
BigBlue68 Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 I actually can't remember, it could be over three years. I've lost track. I used to think that I just didn't want it... but I do. We don't have any kids, I'm just no longer sexually attracted to her. We're not headed in a good direction right now.
delajoonal Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 BigBlue... are you saying you ARE currently married and NOT separated BUT yet NO sex for 3 years??? is there a reason? like an illness you or her? you must find out..i am telling you...sex is NOT the whole marriage, especially after the 10 year mark...we become best friends etc... but you must talk to her..i am telling you from experience... you are going to get very frustrated and even tho you love your wife.. you might find YOURSELF on FaceBook:sick:???? i have seen this happen so much..i m not trying to scare you... but you must talk with your wife...find out if it is hormonal, physical, something you did to turn her off or did she do something to turn you off( not being mean, but you know)' it could be something so simple and you both just need to communicate it.. how long have you been married? i just hate to see ANY marriage end in divorce because there was NO communication over something so simple as sex...i know IT is hard for some to talk about...but you must... and if it is an attraction thing...did she stop wearing make up, gain LBs., stop wearing that perfume that made you crazy at first... you must remind her of these things, but be very gentle.... also...on your part.. as GUnny says, "date your mate".. take her out to a nice romantic dinner..candle light, buy her a new sexy dress...etc....you must try too.. i am so serious really about this...this will NOT lead to any good...do something now!! im speaking from experience...it you wait too long to talk about it..you will be here talking about divorce and not lack of sex in your marriage... ok..was i too personal and brutal...im sorry..its just sensitive subject with me.. and i just wish someone would have kicked me and MY H in the BUTT like this a few times during our marriage...we had a few rough spots... anyway.... good luck and i wish you the best...keep us posted OK;)
Trying09 Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Its been six months for me. Filing papers soon...so i know it will be a while before I get some again. I'm with you Lisa....want it, but not with just anyone. totally sucks!
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