Gypsie Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 There is this guy that I had recently met. We went out a few times for the last month or so, every couple of days. He was the one perusing me, he asked me out, he initiated texts with me all the time asking me how my day/morning was, pretty much every day. During that time I felt that we had clicked, enjoyed each others company and that things were going very well with us. The last time I saw him, I kind of wanted to get an idea of where I stood with him, asked in a really clever way that didn't sound too pushy at all and he said that he wanted to take things slow with us and see where it goes, as he had been hurt before in the past. I was cool with that and everything and just left it at that. (The last few times we hung out, he's also gone on about how much he likes me too). A few days after, nothing. No texts at all. I thought 'okay maybe this is he's way of cooling it down, I will hear from him tomorrow.' Another couple of days go by and nothing too. I sent him about three texts during the end of that week and rang twice and got no response, he's phone just ended up going to voice mail. I also emailed him once on Facebook in case he was having phone trouble and got no response with that either. Haven't contacted him since and thought, best off to leave it at that. It's been a bit over a week now and I am like thinking have I been blown off? Could be over reacting because he is a very busy guy. Still, that didn't stop him from contacting me before hand... Just want to know what is going on that's all.
AussieStud Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 (The last few times we hung out, he's also gone on about how much he likes me too). " Firstly that says something, if he tells you he likes you from the last time you saw him then maybe he really means it. He probably will contact you if he told you he likes you and it could also be a way off cooling things off. I find it odd that he doesn't contact you completely, so I believe that the friendship is still there, and there is something still there between you two. It's good how you stepped back and left it at that after a couple of phone calls and msgs, it still shows that you have feelings for him. But keep your mind open to anything, its good to see that you stepped back abit which is the right step to do rather than trying to contact alot. But actions speak louder than words, I know you girls usually go more with what you say and us guys it depends on our actions that determines whether we like you or care. If he cares and doesnt want to hurt your feelings he should contact you sometime and if he doesnt you can do better than that. Hope this helps abit.
Island Girl Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 He was just as busy during the last month when he was seeing you and talking to you every couple of days, right? So a guy going suddenly off the radar is a bad sign. At this point - in the courting phase - he should be showing you his best behavior not his worst. Even if he did contact me I'd be done and moving on because the writing is on the wall with him. He got your texts - call - and message on FB and still didn't respond. That indicates this guy is a jerk. If this ever happens again I wouldn't contact at all. Just consider yourself lucky you found out that he is capable of this kind of cold behavior and move on immediately.
Brady_to_Moss Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Maybe he always got tired of him having to do all the txt's and asking out and felt you didnt like him as much. If i always had to ask her out and send her the first txt and first phone call..i would back away
Author Gypsie Posted September 11, 2009 Author Posted September 11, 2009 *Update* Still haven't heard from the guy. Never tried ringing or texted again, I just assumed he didn't wanna hear from me. I also didn't wanna look like a stalker or anything. He also never replied to my email. I was hurt he didn't respond to that and ended up deleting him off Facebook all together. Just can't believe that someone can tell you things like that and then just suddenly cut you off without any explanation whatsoever. .
Hkizzle Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I find some of the responses so far amusing. Are they meant to be reassuring white lies? If I like a girl I wouldn't stop calling for a week. Maybe 2-3 days. Especially when she's trying to find me.
Island Girl Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 As I said - you should consider yourself lucky you found out he was this kind of guy before you invested too much or got in too deep.
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