Eclypse Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 So this girl whom I met last week I asked out for Sunday. I was in a semi rush when I asked as I was about to leave but had no other choice but to ask then and she said she would get back to me, because she had to confirm with parents (she's 17). I haven't talked to her since I asked. I sent a text a few hours ago asking if we were still on but got no response to that. I'm not quite sure what to do now. Past experience tells me when a girl doesn't say yes she usually means no even if she doesn't say that. I thought we were quite flirtatious when we met, but I am often quite wrong about these things. It isn't that hard to send a text saying "I don't we can meet" or even some bs excuse like "my cat got hit by car" would be better than nothing. I considered calling her to confirm but don't want that to be taken as a sign of desperation. Should I text again maybe? I know sometimes texts don't get through, but that's a real long shot. I know I shouldn't be stressing about this but I did think she had potential, she seemed nice and seemed interested, but that was only intial reactions I guess.
MeadowGlitter Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Give her a call and ask her. Tell her you want confirmation because you have something nice planned.
Pedigree Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Past experience tells me when a girl doesn't say yes she usually means no even if she doesn't say that. I thought we were quite flirtatious when we met, but I am often quite wrong about these things. It isn't that hard to send a text saying "I don't we can meet" or even some bs excuse like "my cat got hit by car" would be better than nothing. Your past experience is correct.
MeadowGlitter Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Your past experience is correct. Doesn't necessarily mean that. She might have not asked her parents yet, so many things could be up on why she hasn't replied.
Author Eclypse Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 Well I did actually have something nice planned!! Would have been good for us to go, even if we didn't end up pursuing a relationship. I'm not sure if I should call now... conflicting replies.
Pedigree Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Doesn't necessarily mean that. She might have not asked her parents yet, so many things could be up on why she hasn't replied. But then he's sent an sms asking if they're still on and she hasn't response. Although in saying that, I'm probably just cynical as a result of my own past experience (girl always being evasive and then cancelling when something has been planned). I probably wouldn't call, Eclypse. You've sent a follow up text and still no answer, the ball's in her court.
MeadowGlitter Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Well I did actually have something nice planned!! Would have been good for us to go, even if we didn't end up pursuing a relationship. I'm not sure if I should call now... conflicting replies. It's entirely up to you. I wouldn't pass off a girl (if I were a guy) just because she didn't reply to my sms. Anything could have come up. Ignore her, if you must. Good luck!
Author Eclypse Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 It's been 12 hours since I sent the text. I guess I may as well call in the morning then, nothing to lose. I did notice though that she hasn't been on facebook or msn at all today. I'm wondering if something might have happened. What I'm mainly right now worrying is about myself. Maybe I do something that turns people off. I try to be open and assertive most of the time. My mum thought that perhaps I had scared her, which I guess might be a valid point since she doesn't really know me at all. We just met once. My facebook is all she really has to go on i suppose. She has no clue if im a rapist or serial killer or player. My facebook page does make me seem like a nice person though, and it's how I try to be in real life too. Then again I was under the impression that dating was all about meeting new people. Perhaps I need to date older women, but none of them are interested in an 18 year old guy.
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