mimiminx Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 I love Facebook. I go on several times a day. However, my dumper (not ready to call him an ex yet) seems to always pop in. What kills me is seeing him on chat. Sometimes he has contacted me, sent messages, comments, etc. Often I don't respond, never initiate contact. It kills me to see him on there at the same time as me. (He left a month ago), NC for almost 2 weeks after, then constant contact on his part now for 2 weeks. Now, I am resolving for no contact. I don't want to delete my account or delete him, we have alot of mutual friends too. Anybody else feel this way?
nature Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Set yourself to "offline" and you'll never have to see who is online again. Nobody can see you online, and you can't see anyone else online. Do it!
jb1173 Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 De-friend him and/or block him. Do whatever you have to do so that you don't have contact with him. It's the only way to begin healing. You need to do this. Unless his messages contain specific actions he will take to improve himself or the relationship, then he is only keeping contact with you in order to keep you as a "back up". No girl deserves to be Back Up Girl. Make him step up and prove himself worthy, or block him for good.
adamt Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Block him and unfriend him. There is an application you can use so you can see who is online without being online. you can also create a friends list so you can appear offline to some people. But i would highly recommend unfriending them and blocking them. It is a hard thing to do but it is better in the long run
rubo Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 I love Facebook. I go on several times a day. However, my dumper (not ready to call him an ex yet) seems to always pop in. What kills me is seeing him on chat. Sometimes he has contacted me, sent messages, comments, etc. Often I don't respond, never initiate contact. It kills me to see him on there at the same time as me. (He left a month ago), NC for almost 2 weeks after, then constant contact on his part now for 2 weeks. Now, I am resolving for no contact. I don't want to delete my account or delete him, we have alot of mutual friends too. Anybody else feel this way? I know how you feel. I'm going through the exact same thing. First i tried to hide my ex's constant status updates, but then after 2 weeks she contacted me over the face-messenger and told her i wasn't ready to talk to her yet, and then I simply deleted her. It was just unbarrabel to see her in my onlinelist everytime i checked it. Now I have no problem being on face, before it hurted to much, and I all the time noted if she was online or not. Deleting her is deffinetly the best move I've made other than NC.. Good luck:)
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