jlr Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 So, some of you may remember my last post. My ex had contacted me, as she does every so often, about stupid stuff. I wrote her a really long email a few weeks ago, telling her she can't do it anymore. That it's too hard for me since I still love her. I also went into a lot of things I never had before. She's been putting all this blame on me for a long time, acting like she's the victim, when she's the one who dumped me. I stood up for myself for once and told her to basically grow up and that I'm not her security blanket anymore. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=196601 Anyways. So today she called again. I was doing laundry, didn't hear the phone. She left a message saying she wondered if I knew where her taxes were from last year. I had done them for her, as I always did. She said how grateful she was that I did them, and wondered where I put the records for it. I didn't call back. I thought if she can't even acknowledge the letter or anything really, then **** it. She can get that info easily from the IRS if she really needs it. Also, I put the PDF's in her "My Documents" file, as I had every other year. So after an hour or so, she called back. I again wasn't near the phone. She leaves another message. This one she sounded weird. She said that she found them on her computer, so I didn't have to call her back if I didn't want to (why would I, if there's no need to now). She said I had put them in an easy place for her to find, which she said she should have known I would, and that she was an idiot for not checking. She apologized for bothering me. Then said how she hoped I was well, and that she heard my band's shows were going really well. And basically that she'll talk to me some other time. It's like, I don't know. Maybe she did need her tax info. But it's always weird. Like an excuse. If you were done with me, and I had written this letter saying it's too hard for me, don't contact me for dumb reasons - why do it. I mean, maybe she thinks the tax thing sounds more important, but it's like, you didn't think to check your computer first, before calling me...the person who you are over, who sent you this massively long email about ****, and you don't even mention it in the message at all?? For once, I'm proud of myself for not responding at all. For ingnoring it all. I'm still torn up, because it messes with my head. But at least this time I didn't react.
TaraMaiden Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Leave it. Delete the messages. It was question - answer. So she's done. So should you be.... never try to 'go figure'.... you never will. When a person tries to screw with your mind it simply shows theirs is screwed already. Remember that.
Author jlr Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 thanks tara, i know you're right. i've been really tempted to call her or text her. to basically say **** YOU. how can you do this **** to me still. did you not read my letter telling you NOT to contact me about dumb ****. that it's too hard for me to have to hear her voice. obviously, she still only thinks about herself. she's a selfish person. luckily, i've been remembering that when i pick up the phone. i hope i can stay strong here. my whole point in my email to her what that she can't contact me, that I won't accept it. if i give in, it makes my letter completely irrelevant.
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