justawish Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 I am looking into some spy things to track my WH. I'm doing it at this point for piece of mind. I put Verizons answer for a tracker on his phone which basically SUCKS!!! I am now VERY interested in a voice activated recorder to put in his car as that is where I know some of the meetings took place. Has anyone used ANY spy things and have honest reviews of what they used. Any opinion helps!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
seibert253 Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Used a freeware keylogger from downloaded from CNET, don't remember which one, but worked like a charm. VAR was a Sony digital with 8hrs of record time. Very small. Also worked great. Bought it from Office Max. Without the evidence I gathered using these, my FWW would probably still be involved in her A. She steadfastly denied, denied, and denied somemore until I showed her the email copies, and played her recorded conversations with the OM.
Devil Inside Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 If you are suspicious enough to use spyware then you probably know what is going on. Do you really want the details?
angie2443 Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 If you are suspicious enough to use spyware then you probably know what is going on. Do you really want the details? The mind games that are played on a BS to keep them in the dark really are harmful. Sometimes a person's gut is screaming that something is wrong, but the person who they love and want to believe so badly is telling them that nothing is going on. The BS ends up doubting their very mind. I think sometimes the solid evidance is needed by the BS to help them see they are not going crazy and that they can trust themselves.
Devil Inside Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 The mind games that are played on a BS to keep them in the dark really are harmful. Sometimes a person's gut is screaming that something is wrong, but the person who they love and want to believe so badly is telling them that nothing is going on. The BS ends up doubting their very mind. I think sometimes the solid evidance is needed by the BS to help them see they are not going crazy and that they can trust themselves. I see your point. Just want OP to really determine if they want to look at or hear some very painful materiel. In most cases, if you have a strong gut feel...it's probably happening. However, when it comes to big decisions....such as D....you probably want to back up your gut with evidence.
seibert253 Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 The mind games that are played on a BS to keep them in the dark really are harmful. Sometimes a person's gut is screaming that something is wrong, but the person who they love and want to believe so badly is telling them that nothing is going on. The BS ends up doubting their very mind. I think sometimes the solid evidance is needed by the BS to help them see they are not going crazy and that they can trust themselves. This was me. Angie's right on the money.
pruh74 Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 I was talking to the girl in the us cellular store and she said there are several programs that can be downloaded onto the WS phone to hear conversations and get text logs. (the whole conversation, not just the phone number they're texting.) However, you'd have to check with your state's laws to make sure it's legal. In some states, it's considered wire tapping and you could be arrested for it.
Author justawish Posted September 6, 2009 Author Posted September 6, 2009 Very interesting replies, thank you. My WH has come clean. For me its now about making sure it will never happen again. Last straw kind of thing here. So yes I can absolutly "handle" this! Anyone else actually ever use these kind of devices??
xpaperxcutx Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Very interesting replies, thank you. My WH has come clean. For me its now about making sure it will never happen again. Last straw kind of thing here. So yes I can absolutly "handle" this! Anyone else actually ever use these kind of devices?? This sentence tells me you're willing to stay in the marriage despite the affair coming to the surface. Has your WH repented? Is he working towards restoring the marriage? Are the both of you in MC? Since you're seeking for ways to spy on him, it's evident enough to tell me you don't trust him which is understandable but it also implies that this marriage is doomed because of the lack of trust. Therefore a D is inevitable. On the other hand are you trying to seek evidence to solidify a divorce proceeding where the judge will rule in your favor. I'm just curious to see how you want things to eventually play out.
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