BW007 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 i ignore her. Then she really sends a txt to my brother saying that she is preggo 90 days (yesterday she told me 2.5 months). okay I get it now. The way I read the above quote was what made me think she was saying she was sleeping with your brother too. My mistake. Create a strong boundary with this woman Polo..for real she has nothing good for you.
theBrokenMuse Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 I'm sorry but it needs to be said - freaking stop it already! You are allowing this woman to dictate everything to you and she knows it. She knows what buttons to push and how to get you to jump on command. You need to take control of the situation. You have to be the one to tell your family that there is a crazy chick that you dated who is blackmailing you by threatening to spread misinformation to them and try and alienate you from them. Defuse the situation before one arises and then she has nothing to use against you. After that you can tell her, via registered letter that you retain a copy of, that your entire family is now aware of the situation and not to contact you until after the baby is born. Save any and all txts and/or messages she sends you, start documenting the date and times they occur as well as any other attempts at contact. Change your cell number. If she continues to contact you, have a lawyer send her a cease and desist letter. This is likely to scare her into quitting and if not, take the mountain of evidence you will now have and press harassment charges. You can not be nice with people like this. She has a screw loose and will not stop until you show her that you aren't going to play her game.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 I would just like to point out that since you come from a traditional family that doesn't take to having babies popping outside of a marriage, you should consider long and hard before you decide to have sex the next time around, even if it's protected. Oh, and i think you should have the cops on speeddial just in case. Also keep most of her messages in case you need evidence in the future to secure yourself a restraining order against her.
Author h20poloman Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 Great tips. Thank you all. It's kind of comforting to see these responses. I will do the above and keep you updated. I live in a town that the police are very responsive. I love it here.
sweetjasmine Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 I told her before that my family is traditional and we can't just have a baby pop up without being married. I also made it sound like it's a matter of life and hell if they find out. So time to time she txt me that she is going to tell them. last week she said she will drive there to tell everyone, but she never did. Today she said she is going to txt my brother. I ignored her. Then she did send the txt. I just don't understand if she's 2.5 months, why would she txt my brother that she is 90 days. She says she's been bleeding for 2-3 weeks now. This girl is so manipulative from her past stories she told me and I find myself stupid to go with her again. What do you guys think my brother should reply even if any to her txt this morning? Should he even reply back or just ignore? Dude, all that stuff about bleeding for 2-3 weeks, changing her story about how far along she is, drinking alcohol...it's a giant pile of steaming horsesh-t. Seriously. That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. So she's pregnant for 60 days and then a few days later she's already been pregnant for 90 days, and she's been drinking alcohol while pregnant even though she's been bleeding for 2-3 weeks and in pain from an inflamed pelvis. But she's still pregnant. But she won't take a pregnancy test in front of you. But, really, she's pregnant, and you're going to be in big, big trouble if you don't give her what she wants. Gimme a f-ing break, a seventh grader could come up with a more convincing story. Just to repeat what you already know: She knows your family's position on babies and marriage, so she's trying to manipulate you into coming back. If I were your brother, I'd completely ignore her, but that's just me. I just want my life, peace, concentration back. I can't focus right now. This weekend sucked for me. I hope you guys had a blast. You can get your life back. Please take the advice other people have given you.
Odyssey Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Hey Polo, don't be a sucker by reacting to this psycho's obvious BS story every time (its crap 'cause there's too many inconsistencies). She wants to hurt you! Just ignore the crazy woman.
Author h20poloman Posted September 9, 2009 Author Posted September 9, 2009 There is not going to be an end to this. She txt me today at 7:20pm saying Hi. then at 7:30 saying, Now that we're even. I will do things that need to be done. WTF does that mean? Even with what? She is hurt because she got dumped. She thinks this is a game. I hate this drama. I hate the drama the crazy woman that I have met is bringing me. I will contact my attorney tomorrow and see what he thinks i should do. I will probably go to court this weekto get restraining order.
Author h20poloman Posted September 9, 2009 Author Posted September 9, 2009 I ignored her and here came more texts.. her: yesterday morning asked u to meet up with me early so i can surprise u with good news. but u did not respond back , so i was mad. her: i was going to tell you that i will see my doc and i will take care of it. her: since i can't carry for so long. my pelvis are not well her: hope u will be happy with the news me: i go with you to the doc her: i went this morning with my friend already her: my friends don't want to see me in pain everyday me: i thought you said u already went this morning her: i am going tomorrow to get it done. me: i go pay for it (testing her) her: the doctor already put med inside, i have to go one more time so he finish.
Ms. Red Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Hey Polo, I read on another thread where someone got a call from their cell company & was told to stop texting a certain person. I've never heard of it but maybe you could contact your cell company and ask if they can do anything like that. Also, I was wondering if you have a man in your family that you respect and look up to & can confide in them about this. You sound like you need help from someone you trust and is older and wiser than you. There has to be someone that will listen and help you. Good luck & I wish you well. =^-^=
Author h20poloman Posted September 9, 2009 Author Posted September 9, 2009 Thanks Red. I will look into it. At least this is over. I won't make cotact what so ever with this psycho girl anymore. As for talking to some others, I have and they have been great throughout this with me.
Jilly Bean Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Like I said earlier, she made it all up. Every last bit of it. Even her phony abortion (a doc doesn't insert "meds" to accomplish that, particularly when someone is a few months along, and certainly not in the US). She is completely certifiable. I'd get the restraining order just to be safe.
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