h20poloman Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 This text msg came in July 25th after I break up with her 2 weeks before that. When I broke up she said she will make me cry for hurting her/etc. I was honest with her and told her I wanna be alone. But she can't accept the fact that i don't wanna see her anymore. She says why did you go out with me and sleep with me, why weren't you just a friend if you had no intentions. I said, well I grew out of liking you. This is her text about 5 days after breakup. "My last period was June 5. I am 40 days late" I only saw her on June 27th and that was it. Am I trapped again by another lie (she did this in April and told me she's prego, then in may she said she ran to answer the door and she hit the door and lost the baby. I was stupid enought to go out with her one more time.) Hopefully this is another scam of her. so to summarize June 5 = last period June 27th=we were together July 20th=break up July 25th="My last period was June 5. I am 40 days late" does this timeline make sense? i never came inside. after 10 minutes, i got up and put on 2 condoms. (double) Then a series of text came afterwards within 5 seconds of each other. "you gonna be a father. start being nice to others" "i know you are excited" "don't be over joyed, the next few months and years will be hard work darling" " I'm going to leave town very very soon. I want u to make sometime to go to the doctor with me. Before I leave" "if you can't make it, can i ask your brother to go with me" wtf? ask my brother. is it for real that she is asking me to go to doctor with her? My stupidity, this girl has deceived me in the past. I fell into her trap. She keeps forcing herself. Last time, after 1 month, she said she ran to the door and she lost the baby. i was trying to be nice to her (Even though i knew it could not be true, the ultrasound pic (she said 2 months old, but the ultra sound was a picture of a baby with hands and head and it was old with no timestamp/date), the hospital she named didn't exist, etc). How easy is it for her to get pragnent everytime we break up? especially since I only saw her once and after 10 minutes, i used double protection (double condom) and after i threw it in toilet. the part that is scary, is that she is asking me to make time to go to doctor (which i didn't reply), then she txt back saying if it's ok to ask my brother to go if I can't go. ???? Is it for real that she wants me to go to doc? This is the girl that the last time, she would not take the test in front of me. Now she wants me to go to doctor with her. update: she went to doc and when i said i want to come , she said it's ok, no need. we met up once for dinner (30 days ago) and i had a test with me (digital test) but the timing was not right to say take the test. she drank alcohol (2 apple martinis). we met up one more time (few weeks back) and she drank 4 cosmos. i told her last week to take the test in front of me (i had it in my pocket), she said, she wanted me to write a letter that i take care of the baby for the next 18 yrs, and that she wants it notorized, and then i keep one copy, she keep one copy, and then she will take it then. I hate drama and don't need this in my life. it's stressful. Any advice is appreciate.
4givrnt4gtr Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 As i read this I kept thinking "how old are you guys!!" but really it doesnt matter.... take a deep breath She's probably lying She lied to you the first time. Its so very very obvious. You can just "run and hit your tummy" and lose a baby. It doesnt work like that. She would have been in the hospital and you would have known all about it. Now this time, her texts are obviously sent to torment you. This is classic high school behavior. If you want to stop her in her tracks ask her to go to the doctor, get a blood pregnancy test and give you the written results. Until then, you dont want to hear about her and if she keeps harassing you without prove of her pregnancy you will sue her for slander. I hate girls like this. Give us a really really bad name Oh one more thing. the whole brother thing...its just more ish to get you scared. now, if it turns out is for real, make sure you do a paternity test. This chick sounds psychotic
BUENG1 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 This text msg came in July 25th after I break up with her 2 weeks before that. When I broke up she said she will make me cry for hurting her/etc. I was honest with her and told her I wanna be alone. But she can't accept the fact that i don't wanna see her anymore. She says why did you go out with me and sleep with me, why weren't you just a friend if you had no intentions. I said, well I grew out of liking you. This is her text about 5 days after breakup. "My last period was June 5. I am 40 days late" I only saw her on June 27th and that was it. Am I trapped again by another lie (she did this in April and told me she's prego, then in may she said she ran to answer the door and she hit the door and lost the baby. I was stupid enought to go out with her one more time.) Hopefully this is another scam of her. so to summarize June 5 = last period June 27th=we were together July 20th=break up July 25th="My last period was June 5. I am 40 days late" does this timeline make sense? i never came inside. after 10 minutes, i got up and put on 2 condoms. (double) Then a series of text came afterwards within 5 seconds of each other. "you gonna be a father. start being nice to others" "i know you are excited" "don't be over joyed, the next few months and years will be hard work darling" " I'm going to leave town very very soon. I want u to make sometime to go to the doctor with me. Before I leave" "if you can't make it, can i ask your brother to go with me" wtf? ask my brother. is it for real that she is asking me to go to doctor with her? My stupidity, this girl has deceived me in the past. I fell into her trap. She keeps forcing herself. Last time, after 1 month, she said she ran to the door and she lost the baby. i was trying to be nice to her (Even though i knew it could not be true, the ultrasound pic (she said 2 months old, but the ultra sound was a picture of a baby with hands and head and it was old with no timestamp/date), the hospital she named didn't exist, etc). How easy is it for her to get pragnent everytime we break up? especially since I only saw her once and after 10 minutes, i used double protection (double condom) and after i threw it in toilet. the part that is scary, is that she is asking me to make time to go to doctor (which i didn't reply), then she txt back saying if it's ok to ask my brother to go if I can't go. ???? Is it for real that she wants me to go to doc? This is the girl that the last time, she would not take the test in front of me. Now she wants me to go to doctor with her. update: she went to doc and when i said i want to come , she said it's ok, no need. we met up once for dinner (30 days ago) and i had a test with me (digital test) but the timing was not right to say take the test. she drank alcohol (2 apple martinis). we met up one more time (few weeks back) and she drank 4 cosmos. i told her last week to take the test in front of me (i had it in my pocket), she said, she wanted me to write a letter that i take care of the baby for the next 18 yrs, and that she wants it notorized, and then i keep one copy, she keep one copy, and then she will take it then. I hate drama and don't need this in my life. it's stressful. Any advice is appreciate. Whatever you do don't sign anything anybody gives you pertaining to this supposed pregnancy. Who knows if its real or not, honestly it sounds like she's messing with your head. I would ask her to supply proof that she is pregnant and that the child is yours other than that I wouldn't have any contact with her. Edit: And obviously don't get together with her or have sex with her anymore.
4givrnt4gtr Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 oh my god im sorry i just finished reading the last parts of your post. She's drinking alcohol and telling you she is pregnant. BTW what in the world does alcohol have to do with a pregnancy test? It doesnt affect accuracy at all! You are getting oh so duped is not even funny. Id just tell her to F* off and unless she has undeniable proof, dont bother you again
Author h20poloman Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 thanks for the replies. fyi, she is 34. I am 2 yrs older. I just wonder, for the year and half we saw each other more than twice a week, she never got preggo. Now only once and that was in June 27th, then preggo again (twice in a row) Her text messages say that she wants me to feel the pain. Just the other day, she sent txt msg that she wants to see me. I said i am busy at my family. she said she knows where they live and she wants to deliver the news in person. i ignored her msgs. then few other ones came in saying that if she doesn't hear from me, then she will stop by to tell them the news. i still ignored her. then she said expect me at the door tonight. which i txt'd her back and 1 hour later, she said she won't come that night. 5 days ago, she said she is bleeding. then 2 days later she says that everything is ok according to doc. 2 days ago, i get this txt from her saying "hi", 4 minutes later a txt saying "who the hell are you, she is having your child" followed by another txt "you better prey she is ok" next day she says "good morning, i passed out yesterday and just came back from hospital" my girl friend sent you that txt. she had pain down there. even when i ignore her, these txt come in and f...k with my mind. i can't concentrate at work or when i come home, don't have energy to go to the gym or even do anything. Believe me, if this is her game, i wonder how long she is going to drag it. Once i know for sure , this girl is history and i will run far away from her.
boogieboy Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 She will keep doing the game as long as you answer her. STOP REPLYING TO HER TEXTS!!!! She isnt coming to your house, its not your baby, and she might not even be prenant. She is just psycho. Its all BullShyte. DOnt let her get to your head.
sweetjasmine Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 does this timeline make sense? i never came inside. after 10 minutes, i got up and put on 2 condoms. (double) 2 condoms is a very bad idea. The friction makes it more likely that they'll break. Going at it for 10 minutes before putting on a condom is also a very bad idea. Last time, after 1 month, she said she ran to the door and she lost the baby. Sounds like BS. (she said 2 months old, but the ultra sound was a picture of a baby with hands and head and it was old with no timestamp/date) No way would a 2 month ultrasound show anything like that. How easy is it for her to get pragnent everytime we break up? What a coincidence. we met up once for dinner (30 days ago) and i had a test with me (digital test) but the timing was not right to say take the test. she drank alcohol (2 apple martinis). we met up one more time (few weeks back) and she drank 4 cosmos. She's drinking, but she's pregnant, and for some reason, she can't take the test? This girl's a terrible liar.
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 She is messing with you big time. I would call her bluff and tell her not to contact you in any way, shape or form until she has had the baby and is ready to take a DNA test. Tell her that if she continues to contact you, you will take out a restraining order and all further contact will be done through a lawyer. Don't be surprised if her next move is a "suicide" attempt. I wouldn't put it past her.
Jordanjames Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Can't a DNA test be conducted? Did the OP have sex with this woman in the last few months or not? I think he should definitely find out for certain whether or not he is the father. I think he definitely should have a DNA test conducted to be certain.
Author h20poloman Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 The problem is that this woman is very maniuplative. She had txt'd me before that she wants me to suffer. This could well be her game. I don't even know if she is pregnant. How easy is it to get pragnent when we just break up. For the year and half, it was no problem. But twice I break up, she pulls this on me once in April and then she said she lost it a month later. Now this one. Also, the ultrasound pic that she sent me the first time was so old, that I think it's her first child's ultrasound. it doesn't even have a time/date stamp on it. When I asked which place she took the ultrasound, she gave me the location of it. After my own research I confronted her and said they are not there. She said they just moved to another location. I call the other location and find out they have been there for 14 yrs. This maniuplative psycho woman is using this trick and it's the doubt that is killing me. Even though it was only once that I was with her.
TaraMaiden Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 One final text: "Call me when it's born. We'll do a DNA test. I'll pay. Until then, stay out of my life, and away from me. Any more harassment and I will obtain a restraining order, until the baby is born." Then block her calls, texts, e-mails, telephone messages, do not rise to the bait, ignore her and make like she does not exist. It might also be fair to let mutual friends in on her game so that if she tries to get to you through them - they are already aware of her game.
Author h20poloman Posted September 7, 2009 Author Posted September 7, 2009 Well I ignored most of her texts. Then she sends me a txt this morning that she is going to tell my brother the news. i ignore her. Then she really sends a txt to my brother saying that she is preggo 90 days (yesterday she told me 2.5 months). I had told my brother of the situation and made him aware. I told her that if family finds out, it's a bad thing. I guess she's using that against me. txt says: i am preg with your brothers child for 90 days and my pelvis are in pain and bleeding. Can anyone tell me what the heck the latter part means and if it's just a hoax. remember this is the same girl that ran to the door few months back and lost the first one. then after the 2nd break up she gets prego again.
bubblegum Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 did her period start or end on the 5th? Mostly, she sounds nutty, but the info of when her period STARTED is relatively important.
TaraMaiden Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 OK.... Listen carefully.... Read my post (number 12) - again - and follow through. OK?
NopeNah Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Stop guessing what she's doing until you know whether or not she's truly pregnant with YOUR kid. She's obviously a psycho!
Author h20poloman Posted September 7, 2009 Author Posted September 7, 2009 Truth is that I am a bit scared of this whole situation. and don't have the guts yet to send such text. OK.... Listen carefully.... Read my post (number 12) - again - and follow through. OK?
Author h20poloman Posted September 7, 2009 Author Posted September 7, 2009 then that would make it around 60 days or so. not 90 days. she says she is 90 days. did her period start or end on the 5th? Mostly, she sounds nutty, but the info of when her period STARTED is relatively important.
Jilly Bean Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 She's 34???!!!! I thought she was 19 by the sounds of her. Regardless, IMO, she's NEVER been pregnant, nor is she pregnant now. She is doing this to manipulate you back into her life. I give a plus one to Tara's advice. And I wouldn't be afraid to do so, either. You need to establish some boundaries, otherwise expect months and months of her craziness. Once she realizes you won't be with her, REGARDLESS of her phony pregnancy, she'll get bored and move on.
TaraMaiden Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Look - given the maths...given the fact that her story keeps changing.... given that her actions are completely in line with someone who is a stalkerish-psycho.... What the heck exactly are you scared of? Send the text. I bet you anything you like, nothing will ever come of this.....
smookie Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 Get someone to find out (your brother) what doctor she is seeing and her appointment times then show up for one. See if she is even there. I so dought that she will be there.
Enema Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 You're doing exactly what she wants you to do - reacting. Do what Tara said. One final "I'll take care of my responsibilities when they're proven, until then - leave me alone" message.
EsmerKiss7 Posted September 7, 2009 Posted September 7, 2009 She's 34???!!!! I thought she was 19 by the sounds of her. Regardless, IMO, she's NEVER been pregnant, nor is she pregnant now. She is doing this to manipulate you back into her life. I give a plus one to Tara's advice. And I wouldn't be afraid to do so, either. You need to establish some boundaries, otherwise expect months and months of her craziness. Once she realizes you won't be with her, REGARDLESS of her phony pregnancy, she'll get bored and move on. That is all too true, it sounds like she just wants to keep you around so she's making sh** up. How can someone be all of a sudden pregnant everytime you break up? Lol, i'm having a hard time believeing the ages here.. but is it possible someone that old would really be that naive about pregnancy?
BW007 Posted September 8, 2009 Posted September 8, 2009 Wow she sounds like just my type! But seriously POLO, she told you exactly what she was going to do. Her only goal is to hurt you and she really is not very smart. She is one of the craziest I have heard about on here and I very much doubt she is pregnant, but I would be willing to bet she is trying to get pregnant right now. The inflamed pelvis thing sounds like an STD and the fact she would claim your brother is a dad too is just crazy. Would your brother really sleep with her? She is trying to turn you against your family. It is time to let all of them in on what a crazy person you are dealing with. I almost want to say you are being part of the problem too by being scared to set a real boundary with this revenge seeking woman. Rape is going to be her next claim, so you better be prepared for more bizarre behavior. If she is drinking the kid has a pretty good chance of Fetal alcohol syndrome too if it is real. That is not what even angry moms do. Mostly, I think she is full of it and it worked last time on you.. Let us know how this ends.
Author h20poloman Posted September 8, 2009 Author Posted September 8, 2009 No, she's not sleeping with my brother. I never said she's claiming my brother as a dad. I just said that she told him about all this crap. I had told my brother about it before, so he was in line with me. I also told him to not reply to her txt's. I told her before that my family is traditional and we can't just have a baby pop up without being married. I also made it sound like it's a matter of life and hell if they find out. So time to time she txt me that she is going to tell them. last week she said she will drive there to tell everyone, but she never did. Today she said she is going to txt my brother. I ignored her. Then she did send the txt. I just don't understand if she's 2.5 months, why would she txt my brother that she is 90 days. She says she's been bleeding for 2-3 weeks now. This girl is so manipulative from her past stories she told me and I find myself stupid to go with her again. What do you guys think my brother should reply even if any to her txt this morning? Should he even reply back or just ignore? I just want my life, peace, concentration back. I can't focus right now. This weekend sucked for me. I hope you guys had a blast.
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