JMA707 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 I've been trying to move on the best I can. Its been a couple of days since i decided to start NC after having LC with her for the first month of our breakup. I was looking through my camera at all of the new pictures I had taken since coming here (ive been visiting some friends in DC since we broke up to get away from everything) and SHE happens to be in the last set of pictures. It just made me remember how beautiful she is and how much i really miss her...it hurts enough to know that shes with another guy only a month after our 1.5 year relationship...but seeing her again just kind of made me have another breakdown...its like EVERYTHING reminds me of her...i really do love her but that doesnt matter to her anymore because according to her "she doesnt feel anything for me anymore". I love her so much i would be willing to wait for her to be "available" again just so i can be with her...Don't know why im posting this, just don't really have anyone to talk to about all of this...people in my life tend to get annoyed after hearing me constantly grieving over this stuff haha..
gp913 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 I feel the same way. It's been 3 weeks since we broke up (were together 4 years) and she's already seeing some new guy. She said that she lost romantic feelings for me, but still loves me... I'm so in love with her and just saw pictures of us together. Brought back good memories, but made me sad. She lived with me too for a long time (she moved out), so like, almost everything in this place we picked out together... It's tough. I'm hoping that with time, maybe a second chance will come... but it won't work until I'm healed from all of this happening now. I can't make her feel a certain way, it just has to happen. Just focus on yourself... Don't get too hung up on it. That's what I'm trying to do.
icyness Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 JMA, never hesitate to post, that's what the forums are for! I am so sorry. Gifts, photos, sentiments, all that stuff is such a killer. I know just what you mean about everything reminding you of her. I keep having that problem everywhere I go and whatever I do. It's so weird how you can turn any place and any situation into a reminder of them..but oh how it is possible. What's weird is I can look at pictures of us together on my computer, but any actual tanigble thing like one of his shirts, cards, a stuffed animal..I can't do it. I won't get rid of any of it, yet I cannot be near them. If you feel the same, that you want to keep all that stuff yet it's too much to look at and such right now, I'd do what everyone else usually suggests and just put it all in a box and tuck it away for the time being. I'm finding I'm keeping a lot inside lately and/or coming to the forums to vent rather than talk to people around me about it anymore as well since I don't want to burden them. I know our friends and family want to help, but after a while there's only so much they can do and regardless of what they say, it just feels like you're bothering them. Thank god for this place and the people on it. I really am sorry, I know it hurts. But do know you're not alone. *hugs*
Author JMA707 Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 JMA, never hesitate to post, that's what the forums are for! I am so sorry. Gifts, photos, sentiments, all that stuff is such a killer. I know just what you mean about everything reminding you of her. I keep having that problem everywhere I go and whatever I do. It's so weird how you can turn any place and any situation into a reminder of them..but oh how it is possible. What's weird is I can look at pictures of us together on my computer, but any actual tanigble thing like one of his shirts, cards, a stuffed animal..I can't do it. I won't get rid of any of it, yet I cannot be near them. If you feel the same, that you want to keep all that stuff yet it's too much to look at and such right now, I'd do what everyone else usually suggests and just put it all in a box and tuck it away for the time being. I'm finding I'm keeping a lot inside lately and/or coming to the forums to vent rather than talk to people around me about it anymore as well since I don't want to burden them. I know our friends and family want to help, but after a while there's only so much they can do and regardless of what they say, it just feels like you're bothering them. Thank god for this place and the people on it. I really am sorry, I know it hurts. But do know you're not alone. *hugs* Yeah, i basically tried to get rid of everything that reminds me of her like deleting her off myspace, throwing away old letters, etc etc but somehow things still get through to me...and then i remember shes with another guy now...really hurts...
mr heartbroken Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 hey this is a storey that hits home. My ex is seeing some guy and it makes me feel sick. i too think i will wait for her to see that not everyone is a nice guy blah blah.. you cant wait around for her. go out have fun meet other people. just dont wait around thinking that she might come back. she may never come back. life has a plan and you never know what it is until you are riding it out. I feel my mates are fed up hearing the same old crap but there not they just want whats best for me!!!!! you can always come on here for a rant people will always try and help you....
Author JMA707 Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 Yeah, i'm just going to do my best and focus on improving myself right now. I'm done trying to "win" her back because i know nothing i say or do can beat this other guy right now. Im going to leave her alone completely for awhile...i hope that later we can start talking again or something because i really do love her and i know my feelings for her wont fade...who knows maybe we can be together again...i really hope so but i going to try my best to not dwell on it, even though it will always be in the back of my mind. right now i realize that the only thing i really can do is disappear from her life and let everything run its course.
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