SmartIdiot Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Hello, first let me start with some background. I "dated" this girl for a few months earlier this year. I say "dated" as she knew she was moving and "didn't want anything serious". I can honestly say it didn't progress very far due to us both being shy and maybe a lot to do with my complete lack of experience (I'm mid-20s so it probably isn't expected). Anyways I of course became pretty attached regardless and was pretty saddened when she left. Stupid me. When she left there was a chance that she'd be coming back after a few months and it seemed kind of hopeful that while she didn't want anything serious due to her moving, that maybe at that time we could reconnect. Well I haven't really heard much from her since she left. Even when we were "dating" I was never really sure if she liked me all that much anyhow. I felt this way mostly because I always had to initiate everything. She never ignored me, but then she never took any initiative to see me. So I have no idea if she is returning or not (possibly already here for all I know). I've decided since she left that I really never felt valued throughout the arrangement and that "nothing serious" really isn't for me. Even so I find myself still thinking about her a lot and what I'd do if I heard from her again or saw her on the street (if she did indeed return). It would be nice to have some closure on this. I'd really love to just be told by her that she isn't interested and to bugger off. Doesn't seem like that is going to happen though. I'm really having trouble getting over her, especially since there was some hope left on the table... I've decided that if a reconnection were to happen, it would be worth less if I initiated it given that I really felt undervalued last time since I did all of the initiating. So I don't want to do that. For some reason, likely due to my inexperience, I'm not confident that this is the right action however. That maybe somehow she could be waiting for me to contact her, and I'm an ass for not doing so. Please reassure me that I'm right in assuming that that's ridiculous! Also any advice on how I can go about obtaining closure, or accepting it really, would be welcome. Thank you.
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