savvygrl67 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Hello, I was wondering: Is it normal for a man to tell a woman he doesn't want her to go with any1 else (sleep with) and if she did he wouldn't see her anymore? This after only 11 dates..? The man in question is controlling,selfish,manipulative,lies sometimes,plays mind games,but also is VERY attentive and sees her every chance he gets. Opinions? Thank you, S.
espec10001 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Hello, I was wondering: Is it normal for a man to tell a woman he doesn't want her to go with any1 else (sleep with) and if she did he wouldn't see her anymore? This after only 11 dates..? The man in question is controlling,selfish,manipulative,lies sometimes,plays mind games,but also is VERY attentive and sees her every chance he gets. Opinions? Thank you, S. Why would a girl waste her time with someone who has these qualities?
New Again Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 There is nothing abnormal about telling a girl he wants to be exclusive. And, what he said.
Author savvygrl67 Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 Yeah,but doesn't that sound kinda possesive? After only 11 dates,they only had sex less than half of those dates! Also he got mad because she was in his kitchen checking her email while he was watching TV. He said he wanted her with him,not on the computer! He's very insecure. You guys don't think that's weird? S.
espec10001 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Yeah,but doesn't that sound kinda possesive? After only 11 dates,they only had sex less than half of those dates! Also he got mad because she was in his kitchen checking her email while he was watching TV. He said he wanted her with him,not on the computer! He's very insecure. You guys don't think that's weird? S. Umm yeah that isn't good. Better hope she doesn't get pregnant!
New Again Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Yeah,but doesn't that sound kinda possesive? After only 11 dates,they only had sex less than half of those dates! Also he got mad because she was in his kitchen checking her email while he was watching TV. He said he wanted her with him,not on the computer! He's very insecure. You guys don't think that's weird? S. Well yeah kinda...but it really depends on context. I think if he wants to be exclusive after sleeping with someone, that's his business; either she agrees or she doesn't. That's how he feels, so that's the end of it. If it were a girl I doubt people would think anything of it. They'd probably be congratulating her on actually saying "I want to be exclusive. Otherwise, I'm going to date other people." If someone's looking for an exclusive relationship, whatever. As far as the email/tv thing...who knows. It could be. But if it was like, a movie date at home or something like that, I'd be annoyed too. It's a date, you're supposed to be hanging out, not checking your email.
Author savvygrl67 Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 He told her he didn't want her doing it anymore,just to watch TV with him. And he says he's NOT co-dependent. LOL! Sure sounds like it,no? S.
espec10001 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 He told her he didn't want her doing it anymore,just to watch TV with him. And he says he's NOT co-dependent. LOL! Sure sounds like it,no? S. Umm he sounds like an insecure little bitch who gets his kicks controlling others.
Author savvygrl67 Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 He's 55 and she's 41. So he's a whole other generation. He is so nice,charming,makes everybody laugh,& likes to go out with his friends to bars & games & fishing,ect. but she says he shows her a different side of himself....
BUENG1 Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 I don't think much of what you've said is weird. Wanting to be exclusive after 11 dates certainly isn't strange at all, completely normal.
Author savvygrl67 Posted September 4, 2009 Author Posted September 4, 2009 Well yeah kinda...but it really depends on context. I think if he wants to be exclusive after sleeping with someone, that's his business; either she agrees or she doesn't. That's how he feels, so that's the end of it. If it were a girl I doubt people would think anything of it. They'd probably be congratulating her on actually saying "I want to be exclusive. Otherwise, I'm going to date other people." If someone's looking for an exclusive relationship, whatever. As far as the email/tv thing...who knows. It could be. But if it was like, a movie date at home or something like that, I'd be annoyed too. It's a date, you're supposed to be hanging out, not checking your email. Yeah,but she wasn't even on there that long. And if he didn't like it why didn't he say something right then and there? No,he tells her 3 days afterward! You know? As for the exclusive thing,I still think it's strange after only a few dates. He asked her out in the very first message he sent her. And when he wanted to meet,he said he wasn't going to ask her to marry him,yet. To me that is red flags. That doesn't sound strange to you guys? Also he's divorced & says women are always rejecting him.
New Again Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Yeah,but she wasn't even on there that long. And if he didn't like it why didn't he say something right then and there? No,he tells her 3 days afterward! You know? As for the exclusive thing,I still think it's strange after only a few dates. He asked her out in the very first message he sent her. And when he wanted to meet,he said he wasn't going to ask her to marry him,yet. To me that is red flags. That doesn't sound strange to you guys? Also he's divorced & says women are always rejecting him. OK so bolded part is annoying and immature. I still think it's perfectly normal to know you're dating looking for a LT or exclusive relationship; then asking for exclusivity after however many dates and sleeping together. I also think it's normal to be annoyed at someone checking their email/phone during a date. If you are she, and you don't think it's normal then date someone else. That's all.
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