Just because they don't contact you it doesnt mean they don't care

[conehead]

It can mean that they respect you and also because they themselves need to heal as well. If you think this way, it can make you feel better and move on. This is especially the case if the breakup was mutual, but also if you were dumped/the dumper.

 

When my sister and her bf broke up, she initiated it but it was mutual overall. She broke up with him because he wouldn't move for her and she wouldn't move for him (LDR) and he accepted it. They had zero contact for 3 straight months immediately after the breakup. But trust me, eventhough my sister initiated the breakup, she was in immense pain, crying all the time. But neither of them contacted each other out of respect and also so they can heal themselves.

 

My and my bfs breakup was somewhat mutual....so I'm resisting contact for these reasons. It definitely helps to think this way and help myself.

[JLT123]

My ex gf broke up with me in November.. she met someone towards the beginning of May I believe.. the night she told me about it she spoke with me for 3 hours until 4 AM.. then another hour the next morning.. I don't think those are the actions of someone that doesn't care about you.

 

I miss the woman so much, though..

[conehead]

My ex gf broke up with me in November.. she met someone towards the beginning of May I believe.. the night she told me about it she spoke with me for 3 hours until 4 AM.. then another hour the next morning.. I don't think those are the actions of someone that doesn't care about you.

 

I miss the woman so much, though..

 

Well, I didnt say the reverse, that they dont care if they speak to you. I think it really depends. If they speak to you, it doesnt necessary mean they care or don't care...and the same goes for if they don't speak to you.

[Beeotch]

True....

 

There is more than one side of the dice.

 

The point is...you may never know which side it really is, so might as well choose the answer that makes you feel better and helps you move forward.

 

But assuming or asserting as if it is 100% fact that because they don't do/do x it MUST mean y....not so.

[northstar1]

Well, I didnt say the reverse, that they dont care if they speak to you. I think it really depends. If they speak to you, it doesnt necessary mean they care or don't care...and the same goes for if they don't speak to you.

 

Sure, there can be many reasons they don't contact you.

 

-They are over you and truly don't care because they've moved on

-They are dating someone new

-They respect your feelings and know by contacting you it prolongs healing

-They are not ready to talk to you and are healing themselves.

 

You can try and find solace in it being the latter 2, but in the end, it doesn't matter so much. What matters is you grabbing hold of your own life and moving on and realizing that not being in contact is the best way to find yourself again

[moo]

my ex went NC for him, not for me. After our argument, he was in a relationship a week later with another woman. I didn't even know our relationship was over. He did not answer my questions. Threw this other woman in my face and went NC...all because I got mad when he stood me up over and over again and he wanted to ditch me in a city that I knew almost nothing about and I wouldn't let him.

 

My ex does not care about me. My ex cared about sex, not me. My ex doesn't care about anyone but himself, his gambler friend, his drug addict friend, and his son that he smothers. Period.