making gf feel better

[chriscalifornia]

my gf recently moved in with me from across the country 2.5 months ago and now we are going through a rough time. she's 23 and having grown up in nyc, never learned how to drive. now that she lives in southern california she has had to learn and it is driving us apart. she's been on unemployment compensation since she came out here but it runs out in about two months. she has spent hundreds of dollars on taking lessons and even drove my car around but she failed her 2nd test yesterday. i think she's a very safe and competent driver and so does her instructor but he agreed with me that what is hindering her from passing is that she drives without one shoe on and she makes turns with an unorthodox hand placement (her turns are good though, she just lifts a hand up and lets wheel slide while griping with other hand) and that just gives off a bad impression no matter how well her actual driving is.

 

she's refusing to learn how to drive with shoes, saying she can't feel the pedals and she doesnt want to take the test again and i told her she was being stubborn. i am starting to get worried though. i work 14 hours days and shes in the house by herself and she doesnt really have any friends or any family on the west coast. when i go to bed i hear her moving about in the living room until 4am so she's not sleeping. i can see her losing weight and her bones and yesterday she started to cry uncontrollably b/c she said that she's running out of money and she cant look for a job with no car here and its costing her $130 everytime to go to the dmv and it takes 3 weeks to get new appt. if she doesnt pass next time she has to take and pay for the written test again (which she passed on 1st time). plus, her insurance is going to cost a small fortune cause shes a new driver.

 

 

i love her so much and i told her i would take care of her, i even want to drive her to another dmv and take the day off so she can take the test in my nice car but now she doesnt even want to practice, saying theres no point. im so scared to lose her, we were doing so well but i dont know how to make her feel better. any advice??? thanks

[JustLooking123]

It sounds like you're already being pretty supportive.

 

Just don't forget that she is an adult who is ultimately responsible for herself. For example, if the barefoot driving thing really is a major impedent to her getting her license, then she needs to learn to drive with shoes on, end of story.